I want to explain a few things and then it might be clearer why UK trans people are upset.
In 2001 I married my wife, Sylvia.
In 2005 I started medical transition. For the state to recognise this I had to submit to standards of "care" which were humiliating, degrading and which placed me at risk of violence.
But I did it "by the book"
As I did it "by the book", the NHS agreed to reregister me as female, which makes sense because my anatomy now is.
In 2007 I had sex reassignment surgery. This had to be signed off by two mental health professionals, "by the book", and it was.
In 2008 I applied for gender recognition. This involved signing a statutory obligation, stating that I promised, BY LAW, to live fully as female for the rest of my life. As this was done, "by the book", the government promised that it would treat me as such.
Its first act as treating me as female was to annul our marriage because it was a same sex marriage and those were not allowed.
The state then reissued my birth certificate, correcting the "mistake" it had originally made when it recorded me as male, "by the book".
In 2009 Sylvia and I married for the second time, in a same sex civil partnership, which was done "by the book", because the state regarded me as female and I was bound by law to be female.
In 2013 we married again, because the state decided that same sex marriage was in fact allowed after all. This was done, "by the book". Despite having been married for 12 years, we had to submit ourselves to individual questioning to prove our relationship was genuine, "by the book".
In April of 2025 the state turned round and told me that I had been mistaken. That it never regarded me as female. That I was male the whole time. That the marriage it annulled because it was a same sex marriage was never a same sex marriage (but it stays annulled). That the civil partnership in 2009 never really happened because "opposite sex" civil partnerships were not allowed in 2009.
And that the legal obligation I have to live as female for the rest of my life, which I signed and gave up my marriage for, is still in effect but also if I keep following it, I am breaking the law and subject to arrest. As it's still valid, presumably if I don't keep following it, I am also breaking the law and subject to arrest.
The law of the land simultaneously requires me to be both a man and a woman and if I do either then I am breaking the law and subject to arrest.
At every stage I did what the state asked me to, even though it was humiliating, degrading and cruel.
And it kept moving the goalposts, and reneging on the agreements it made, whilst continuing to hold me to them even when they are now mutually contradictory.
Apparently this is "all my fault" and I should have known that this would be the consequences of my actions when I started medical transition 2 decades ago.
Perhaps you can now appreciate why we are upset?
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in reply to Nikkileah ๐ฎ๐๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ๐ฌ๐ง • • •You are beautiful and the state is ugly.
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Heartbreaking to read. I was in a similar boat but about a decade behind you. My earlier relationship didn't last because she said she wasn't a lesbian. I lost everything to be 'me', got a GRC, had GRS, and now it's all invalid and I'm now liable to be breaking the law if I try to continue being me.
It's testing my mental health for sure.
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Sarah Brown
in reply to kianryan โ๏ธ๐๐ณ๏ธโ๐ • •@kianryan โ๏ธ๐๐ณ๏ธโ๐ The UK Supreme Court decided that women like me had always actually been men.
A number of members of the government, who themselves had voted for the 2004 law that requires me to live as female, agreed with it, presumably because they have some sort of memory lapse.
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Understood. I had to reread a few times.
You have every right to be upset.
Am I right in understanding that the April decision has no (current) implication on your 2013 marriage?
Given the current state, that might be the smallest (albeit significant) of graces.
This is very much in politicians court to fix, and the lack of appetite (or the appetite to do the opposite) is heart breaking.
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in reply to kianryan โ๏ธ๐๐ณ๏ธโ๐ • • •@kianryan
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in reply to Randy Hughes-King • • •Got it. Understood.
Thank you.
Mel
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Sylvhem
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Iโm so sorry.
What did happen for the State to no longer recognize your sex change? Did the law in the UK get modified?
Ryan
in reply to Sylvhem • • •UK: Court Ruling Threatens Trans People
Human Rights WatchSylvhem
in reply to Ryan • • •Ryan
in reply to Sylvhem • • •Crissa Kentavr
in reply to Sylvhem • • •@Sylvhem
Yes. Overruled the existing law that gender certification had to be respected - only 'biology' (but they didn't define it) could be.
bbc.com/news/live/cvgq9ejql39t
UK Supreme Court rules legal definition of a woman is based on biological sex
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in reply to Crissa Kentavr • • •@Crissa I knew about that but didnโt realize it meant you couldnโt change your sex in the UK. I thought it โonlyโ meant you couldnโt benefit from gender-based affimative action ๐ฉ.
This is utterly depressing.
@goatsarah
Crissa Kentavr
in reply to Sylvhem • • •@Sylvhem
It doesn't mean you can't, it just means they've decided to ignore it and create a completely nonsensical setting in which they allow it and then ignore their own rules.
It forces any trans, intersex, persons from any 'single sex' spaces, and forces them to endure cross-sex harassment at the hands of medical and police. While also advancing and legitimizing harassment of any gender-nonconforming people.
feritae ๐บ๐ฆ๐บ๐ฆ
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Leigh Silvester
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •I had no idea of the hurdles and constantly shifting goalposts.
To add insult there is no definition of biological sex in law for one very good reason.. There is no definition of sex that holds true in all circumstances in biology.
I'm sure that you have become very familiar with this. For those who would like to know more about biological ambiguity this is a useful overview with a fun quiz at the end.
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UK Supreme Court judgement sex farce โ The Daily Twerk
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in reply to Sarah Brown • •Really well said. We did everything they asked for, followed every single stupid gatekeeping step, all the teams of paperwork, the humiliating and offensive assessments by perverted psychiatrists.
And in April they pulled the rug from under us, making the GRC I put so much effort into obtaining more or less useless.
I met my obligations that they enforced on me, I did my part and followed all the rules. But no, they can now decide to go back on it and “for all purposes” now becomes “but not really tho, lol”.
I’m angry, I’m upset, I’m frustrated. I have so much fear over what the future holds - we have updated guidance being published any day now and will be law within the next 2 months.
We already have businesses and organisations complying in advance, and no chance of any legal resolution via the ECtHR for probably 5 years. The NHS is transphobic and putting us at risk with dog-whistle questions on NHS Direct and by using incorrect guidelines that ignore our actual biology. The judiciary is set up in such a way tha
... show moreReally well said. We did everything they asked for, followed every single stupid gatekeeping step, all the teams of paperwork, the humiliating and offensive assessments by perverted psychiatrists.
And in April they pulled the rug from under us, making the GRC I put so much effort into obtaining more or less useless.
I met my obligations that they enforced on me, I did my part and followed all the rules. But no, they can now decide to go back on it and โfor all purposesโ now becomes โbut not really tho, lolโ.
Iโm angry, Iโm upset, Iโm frustrated. I have so much fear over what the future holds - we have updated guidance being published any day now and will be law within the next 2 months.
We already have businesses and organisations complying in advance, and no chance of any legal resolution via the ECtHR for probably 5 years. The NHS is transphobic and putting us at risk with dog-whistle questions on NHS Direct and by using incorrect guidelines that ignore our actual biology. The judiciary is set up in such a way that if we do ever complain legally about discrimination or get involved in tribunals then we will be outted and monstered in the press.
Trans healthcare is almost impossible to access now, thereโs another inquiry on the horizon that will decimate care for under 25s and maybe adult care. Healthcare for under 18s is literally banned now and the Government are consulting on banning legal prescriptions from other countries. In Northern Ireland it was revealed today that under 18s possessing puberty blockers (maybe from treatment in IE) are breaking the law and may be prosecuted.
What is the way out here? No one in Government is against this and theyโre actively pushing this hostile transphobic environment.
Iโm lucky, Iโm in a position of privilege in that if things get really bad I can get a visa and leave for another country, or move to Ireland under the CTA - but I shouldnโt have to; and what about those who arenโt in a position to do this?
Iโm angry. Iโm scared. Iโm concerned for friends and family. All I can do right now is be here for those I love and support them through everything. I think in the future weโre going to have to rely on more mutual support because itโs clear the establishment are set against us.
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in reply to Looking for explanationsโฆ • •@Looking for explanationsโฆ They're not confused. Not at all. Hanlon's razor is a useful guideline, but in this case it does not apply.
This is quite deliberate.
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Sue Briccay
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •It is 100% deliberate and not 'incompetence'.
The anti-trans agenda of the current UK government is being driven by that narcissistic war-criminal Blair for 2 reasons:
1:
The UK government (which is run by the Tony Blair Institute) is in cahoots with Trump and the Heritage Foundation.
2:
This is Blair's revenge for losing the 2002 case in the ECtHR 'Goodwin V the UK'.
The outcome of this case resulted in the UK being made to introduce the Gender Recognition Act 2004.
Blair and Mandelson fought it tooth and nail.
Now the UK government are undermining and dismantling it.
@goatsarah
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in reply to Sue Briccay • • •stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-supโฆ
Transgender manโs marriage invalid - Stowe Family Law
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Dodo
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Edit: sorry, read your bio after I wrote that.
Great, you're here. ๐
Sarah Brown
in reply to Dodo • •@Dodo I have left, but in order to get citizenship in my new country, the UK needs to cooperate in providing the relevant documents.
And it's not clear that it's going to do that.
Dodo
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •GunChleoc
in reply to Dodo • • •@Dodo_sipping For citizenship, it never is as easy as for a residence - it will be a long road.
I checked into the rules for Portugal, you'll need your passport, a birth certificate and a criminal record background check. The background check might be the problem. Everything else you should be able to get from the Portuguese authorities.
And, of course, learn to speak Portuguese. They only require A2, that's pretty basic (Germany requires B1, for example).
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in reply to GunChleoc • • •Zillion
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •From "be gay, do crimes" to "being trans is a crime." Just awful! My sympathy, truly.
evilstevie
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •2. big internet hugs from a random
3. that's one solid relationship, you both found your person
4. holy shit, still ๐
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Hey - is it OK to quote your post in full outside of Mastodon? I will not mention you by name or otherwise identify you, if that's relevant.
And I will do that quoting only within a trusted Discord server.
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in reply to Cheshire (Alicja, Artemida and Mara) • •Lazarou Monkey Terror ๐๐๐
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •this government is a cruel antagonist in our lives, it works against us, it spites us rather than lose face. ๐ก
You deserve so much better
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Thank you for sharing this story. It makes me sick, the willingness of some judges who have been trained all their lives to uphold the law, to kowtow to a loud and spoilt special interest group and turn the obnoxious gaze of the state against you. You and your wife deserve better.
The recent rulings are the shame of the Common Law. May they soon be reversed, and all the obnoxious goblins behind it return to anonymity and poverty where they belong.
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Every single one of my female trans friends here in Britain is dealing with mental health issues. The constant battle and abuse just to exist. One of my friends once turned up, sat down next to me, and just cried her eyes out, saying "I'm just a gay man in a dress."
Why? Because two beer bellied football shirt wearing type blokes had just been screaming that at her in the street. So, I spent the next three months messaging her every week to remind her that she is a beautiful and super awesome woman.
I understand that it's a raindrop in a whole sea of shit. But this small thing, coming from a straight man, did make a difference. There is support from non-trans people, but it just isn't loud enough. Especially when a lot of it is out of sight for most people. They just don't know what you, and people like you, go through.
Jim Campbell
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Adam Jacobs ๐บ๐ฆ
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Mina
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Politicians and judges are full of shit.
I still hope, you and Sylvia can still be happy despite everything you have to endure.
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Asta
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Kay
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •the situation in the UK stinks.
I'm in New Zealand where the anti trans movement has invaded our Parliament too. They're trying to push through a bathroom bill and are in the process of removing gender identity education from schools.
Fortunately when our more inclusive MPs managed to get civil union legislation upgraded to marriage equality, the legislation was carefully constructed to be nongendered. Any two adults (except close family) can marry each other. That marriage is still valid if one or both of them transition legal gender recognition.
You have my deepest sympathy for the idiocy and cruelty of your government. ๐ค
fedithom
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •This is pretty horrible. I hope it helps that you moved to Portugal.
Is boosting this post ok for you?
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in reply to fedithom • •Winter Trabex
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •I live America (unfortunately). I decided pretty early on to ignore anything having to do with legal permission and make my own way on my own terms. What they can give, they can also take away. And they love taking things away.
I'm glad you've been in a happy marriage this whole time. ๐
RadishTM
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •รzgรผr
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Vatandaลฤฑ olduฤum รผlke (Tรผrkiye) dahil birรงok รผlkede Birleลik Krallฤฑk "geliลmiล" bir รผlke kabul ediliyor.
Bence hiรงbir "geliลmiล" รผlke, vatandaลlarฤฑnฤฑn penisleriyle, vajinalarฤฑyla, cinsel yรถnelimleriyle, hatta kendilerini tanฤฑmladฤฑklarฤฑ ve ลiddet iรงermeyen diฤer tรผm ลeylerle uฤraลmaz, vatandaลlarฤฑnฤฑ bu sebeplerle hฤฑrpalamaz, vatandaลlarฤฑnฤฑn bu hususlardaki isteklerini kolaylฤฑkla ve harfiyen yerine getirir, vatandaลla arasฤฑndaki iliลkiyi toxic bir hale getirmez.
Davey
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •fuuuuuckin hell
I have a new understanding of what a massive pile of bullshit this is.
Sorry you have to deal with it.
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •I send you hugs
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •thegoatery.dyndns.org/display/…
Cis followers: please read this. It is important. I have no CW for cis people on this one.
CW trans folk: transphobia, enraging catch-22, massive anger surge
Great post by the OP, needs more people reading it. This is how they want their gentleman's genocide to go, literally. Make life legally impossible for trans people, and when despair hits hard enough, you get your goal achieved without any messy bullets, or gas, or any other method that looks like you did anything wrong, so you can become Sir Kid Starver CBE, and shake your coiffed hair to show your deep sadness about how your carefully designed policy arrived at this expected result.
Trans folk: existence is resistance. Live!
Cis folk: Wake the fuck up.
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Cis followers: please read this. It is important. I have no CW for cis people on this one.
CW trans folk: transphobia, enraging catch-22, massive anger surge
Great post by the OP, needs more people reading it. This is how they want their gentleman's genocide to go, literally. Make life legally impossible for trans people, and when despair hits hard enough, you get your goal achieved without any messy bullets, or gas, or any other method that looks like you did anything wrong, so you can become Sir Kid Starver CBE, and shake your coiffed hair to show your deep sadness about how your carefully designed policy arrived at this expected result.
Trans folk: existence is resistance. Live!
Cis folk: Wake the fuck up.
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Peter J Fullagar ๐
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Our government needs to remember that everyone is human.
And Iโm so sorry that you and so many people have to endure this. Sending huge support from my little corner of the UK.
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •"The law of the land simultaneously requires me to be both a man and a woman and if I do either then I am breaking the law and subject to arrest."
Their hate is forcing you into hermaphroditism, which is one of the ultimate achievements in the quest for spiritual enlightenment. Thus is the state of all angels.
I'm sorry you are going through this. They are horrid creatures.
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •EVHaste
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •this is a very clear explanation; it reminds me of the piece that Philosophy Tube published on the madness of trying to play by the the rules as a trans person.
Thank you for sharing your story.
Johan Moir (Mastodon)
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Deb Nam-Krane
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •I mean, you had me at this:
"In 2005 I started medical transition. For the state to recognise this I had to submit to standards of "care" which were humiliating, degrading and which placed me at risk of violence."
Hibou Chachara
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Hiisikoloart
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Nazi's. They want to eradicate us all, just like last time.
I am so sorry this is happening in UK.
I hope it can be correcred soon and those responsible ejected from life.
We (in Finland) have similar people in power who would love to follow on these steps. They just attacked the social security, schooling, and immigration first instead.
Stay safe. โค
Raku.Anarchy
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •stealthradek
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Madness. Although I'd take that as an opportunity to be able to marry the person you love multiple times and relive the happiest day over and over ;)
Still maddening given how undecided and self-contradictory the gov is over the years. Stay strong and all the best!
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •MusiqueNow โก๏ธ ๐ต๐ธ
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Seriously everyone needs to read this!
At GoatSarah: I am sorry the state treated you and your wife this way!!
#TransRighraAreHumanRights๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ
Momo
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •That sounds like a minefield. Doesn't matter what you decide to do, sooner or later you step on one and boom, it blows up in your face.
I absolutely appreciate why you are upset. Everyone wold be.
And I want to point out what a wonderful wife and partner Sylvia is. Even without knowing her, she has to be, she is right at your side through all this journey. Right at your side there, in that minefield.
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Apicultor ๐
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •I'm so sorry this has happened to you.
Have you considered moving somewhere sane/healthy, such as to the Continent?
xinit โ
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Epistatacadam
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Whatever happened to the legal principle that you could do anything except frighten the horses?
Admire your strength!
uxcn
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •I have trouble trying to read something like this and trying to understand where the real problem is.
It is doubtful of some messiah somewhere though persistent disrespect of the female gender does not seem indefinitely tolerable.
I am currently confronting a place that seemed likely refuge from insanity losing much of its character and more specific places where real people live as best as recognized myself being actively threatened.
Can these conflicts withstand real scrutiny?
uxcn
in reply to uxcn • • •Lizzie vox populi, vox dei
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •kรฆt
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •StuartB
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •If us cis-het folk had to jump through any of those hoops just to live our lives, the government would be forced out, but some people appear to think that trans folk are valid targets for this sort of abuse.
I wish we could just let people get on with their lives, let them love who they love, and live as their authentic selves.
And get rid of these red Tories!
Sammi
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •As a trans woman now living in Sweden I can only sympathise with the plight of the trans community in the UK.
I wouldn't at all be surprised if the supreme court made that decision to keep in with Trump and get reduced Tariffs.
Fuck all those damn politicians....
Alexa Devreux-Swift
in reply to Sammi • • •@SamanthaJaneSmith
And now all trans people are, by state dictat, Schroedinger's Fucking Gender.
If I had the ability I would drop the entire bunch of government shits ditched into a black hole ๐คฌ
@goatsarah
Sammi
in reply to Alexa Devreux-Swift • • •Alexa Devreux-Swift
in reply to Sammi • • •@SamanthaJaneSmith
... having them being stretched to infinity for an entire eternity beyond the event horizon would be the closest thing to an eternal living hell there is in this universe!
@goatsarah
Sammi
in reply to Alexa Devreux-Swift • • •Alexa Devreux-Swift
in reply to Sammi • • •By the Law of Threefold Return, may they reap what they sow.
So Mote It Be! ๐๐๐
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sunflowerinrain
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Thank you for putting it clearly. It's a mindboggling horror, and I'm convinced that most people have no idea and no understanding of it. I can't even discuss the nonsense some people have been saying because I can't be polite about it (and I'm aware that shrieking at them won't help).
I can only hope that this dark storm, which has been circling for decades, breaks soon and is followed by clarity.
Courage!
fairydoctor
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Come On Giant Asteroid!
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •That One Walnut
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Why the gender part? Like, why not a marriage between two people. Why specifically between a man and a woman or a woman and a woman or a man and a man?
Genuinely, if I were pm Iโd just scrap gender from the law entirely. Itโs unnecessary, a lot of unnecessary work, and just leads to discriminationโฆ
Just donโt use gender in legal documents ๐คท
Sex is for medical documents and gender is for social life.
numanumayey
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Felix
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Im sending a hug. Thank you for sharing your story
Kate
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Tormod
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I've always thought that legislation never was made retroactive? This is absolutely horrible. So sorry to hear you find yourself harrassed by the state after harming absolutely nobody.
Kevin Karhan
in reply to Tormod • • •๐ฅ Eveline Sulman ๐ณ๐ฑ๐ช๐บ๐บ๐ฆ
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Amato
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SPโCED GOโT
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •What the ever loving fuck.
I really fucking wish we could just leave people the fuck alone and let people love their lives how they want.
It's so far beyond complete and utter nonsense, as you say, degrading and humiliating.
I'm sorry that you and every other LGBTQ+ person must deal with all of this insanity from small minded bigoted assholes that can't mind their own damn business.
Deborah Preuss, pcc ๐จ๐ฆ
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •cybervegan
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davecb
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •holy smokes and I thought the bathroom bills in some conservative states were bad.
(Thoughts on those: never owned a pistol but in those states (laws allowing) I'd open carry, use the bathroom the law demanded and challenge anyone to say anything about it. But that may just be white male privilege talking.)
ZiggyZapf
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Just wow. The cruelty trans people are forced to suffer never ceases to amaze me.
It's dystopian to have the state decide who you are and who you can love.
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Ben Rosengart
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Kevin Karhan
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •yes and at this point I question why all trans people on #TERFisland ain't either fleeing or starting a civil war...
#sarcasm #UKpol #TransRights #HumanRights #TransRightsAreHumanRights
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Plsik (born in 320 ppm) ๐จ๐ฟ๐บ๐ฆ๐ต๐ธ
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Samuelrod
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •MastoBob
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Stupid. And cruel.
And do they define 'live as female'? What does that mean - Wear a dress daily?
Mark Levison
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •D. G. Marshall
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Paul Rebmann
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Mr Lawrence ๐ช๐บ๐ท๐ผ
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Sarah Brown likes this.
Jake
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Simon
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Rebecca Wallace
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Sarah Brown likes this.
Chris [list of emoji]
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(I have no words, so here are some solidarity turtles.)
Coach Pฤแนini ยฎ
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Olivier
in reply to Sarah Brown • • •the UK has gone completely mental lately. First Brexit, then the trans rights retrogradation and the whole Palestine-go-to-prison thing... What. The. Fuck! ๐
I wish you the best of luck getting your papers from these assholes so you never have to see them again ๐
Aknoralsโโถ ๐ด
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Kay
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