People should wear name tags whenever they're in a social space. It removes a source of social anxiety (especially for neurodivergent folx).
Sticker codes are super-handy too.
For example:
🩷 flirty
💚 friendly
💛 introverted
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in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •InB4:
ACAB — I'm not saying *you* have to wear one.
"I don't want people knowing my name" — I'm not saying *you* have to wear one, and you don't have to put your legal name on it, just what you want people there to call you.
"That's a dumb code" — Make up one that works for your social circles / event.
"I don't care what people's names are" — Okay.
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Lisa
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •🤣 I saw this before I scrolled the thread and I was like… “wait for it… yep there they go!”.
Predictable replies are predictable 🤣
Soatok Dreamseeker
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •I literally wear badges with my fursona's name on it at cons.
Your badge doesn't need your government name. Just how you want to be addressed. It's liberating!
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BewilderedKat
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •I find that different locations have vastly different interpretations for sticker codes. But yellow is often something similar to "ask first or maybe" and red is usually "no touchy, no talky unless I start it"
Also the little heart key with the smol tooth is _so cute_
🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄)
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I haven't actually been to an event that's used these in years so I'm not even sure how much variance there is nowadays. I like making little doodles on my name tags.
🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄)
in reply to BewilderedKat • • •@h3mmy 💖 doodles 💖
The lesbian club I went to recently used pink/green for flirty/friendly. No yellow, red, etc because (as they said) "you didn't come here to be asocial".
BewilderedKat
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •That makes sense. I'd be confused by the difference between flirty and friendly though. I think that's just a common ND thing to be confused about?
🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄)
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🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄)
in reply to ®️🧚✨ • • •@Addmen wear the sticker you aspire to be! It's like giving yourself explicit permission to be that thing.
@h3mmy
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BewilderedKat
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I think it's just a signal that you're open to flirty not committing to it. Plus things can change during the experience. I can enter some event energized and ready to go, but one time I forgot my earplugs and that was a hard brake on my sociability.
Plus it's hard to flirt with _everyone_ because there are too many different styles and not all of them are compatible.
@Addmen @alice
Lisa 🦔
in reply to BewilderedKat • • •@h3mmy @eruonna That’s kind of along the lines of what I was going to reply with. Boundaries and consent are not a permanent or immutable states, and do not only apply to sexy times! You always get to communicate them at any time to honour your needs.
Personally I’m always stoked when someone signals a boundary change. Because it’s like a gift. Like “hey I still want to have this interaction (or relationship), and this is how that can happen if you consent too”.
@Addmen @alice
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in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •Ehat happens when you can feel all three things over the course of an event.
[He says, totally asking for a friend.]
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in reply to 24😷-185 • • •Neil Brown
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •Bloomin' sensible idea.
Excellent tag placement too, to remove any awkwardness about looking at someone's chest.
Rocketman
in reply to Neil Brown • • •@neil Fully in favor.
Personally, I’m pretty good at remembering names, but awful at recalling the faces they belong to.
Im particularly suffering at work, there are two middle managers who are identical twins. I see both of them frequently. I never know who’s who.
🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄)
in reply to Rocketman • • •@slothrop oh, that's like work politics on hard mode.
@neil
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in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •Some twins started where I worked several years ago and I suck at names so bad that i didn't realise they were not the same person until I'd spoken to each of them half a dosen times.
The company later gave everyone ID on lanyards but there seems to be a more than 50% chance they've spun around the wrong way with those things, so sticky lables would be better.
Mike Cox
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in reply to Paul Fenwick • • •BewilderedKat
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •At my local pride, the neurodivergent stall had _textured_ stickers and made my day. I actually didn't see what else they had because I stopped listening after textured stickers. But that is one potential use case, however if one wants to be close enough to touch the sticker, might as well have a conversation at that point instead?
@pjf
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in reply to Acorn Squashbuckler • • •Daniel Cooper
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •I don't think there are one-fits-all solutions we should enforce.
As an introverted neurodivergent, I'm very attached to my anonymity as a shell for my identity. And being forced to wear a nametag would automatically exclude me from an event or wherever it's mandatory, cause on the contrary, for me it would be a source of social anxiety to wear it.
Rather than saying "people should", I think it would be better to say "people could", or "I'd like people to"
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in reply to Lukas Lösking • • •:blobcatverified2:
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in reply to :blobcatverified2: • • •@Jain it outsources some of the pressures of meeting new people:
- It encourages meeting new people by lowering the barrier to entry.
- You can point to your tag when introducing yourself, so people can more easily get your name right.
- You can remind yourself of others' names easily, so you don't have to feel awkward by asking again or just silently feeling bad for forgetting.
- It has the same benefits for pronouns.
- You can use sticker codes for other important info.
Ави Кафазен 🥄
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •Being colorblind, I hate indicators that are based solely on colors. For me, pink is gray, and when I see green or yellow, I have to guess what I see: orange, yellow, green or another subtype of red.
The problem is exacerbated when people remember that color blind people exist and only then add alternative labels. But then people forget about the existence of such markers and continue to use only colors, as happened with the Moscow subway lines. At least I am glad that many subway cars now have computer maps on which you can independently plot a route, indicating the necessary destination point without any help from people whose advice I perceive as "get from the green line to the green line, and then back to the green line"
🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄)
in reply to Ави Кафазен 🥄 • • •EndlessMason
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •You can also provide encouragement to introverts by "upgrading" your sticker from "friendly" to "flirty" to "why are you not kissing me?" throughout the course of the evening
@kafazen
🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄)
in reply to EndlessMason • • •@EndlessMason now that's a power move. Mid-conversation you just pull out a pink sticker and place it over your green one.
@kafazen
The gallant knight
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in reply to The gallant knight • • •Lisa
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •I’ve been window-shopping some cute custom name + pronoun enamel pins on etsy.
Doesn’t have the flexibility of choosing a “you may call me” fae-name, but great for anyone who might want a more durable non-sticker option.
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in reply to Lisa • • •@SaucySwampHag
Not name tag, but I have a few pins from heckinunicorn and they've been nice, and also cute!
I've posted a couple of them before lgbtqia.space/@h3mmy/114724913…
Definitely have more though. People have recommended lookhuman before as well in case that's helpful at all. I'm not sure that they do custom name tags either.
@alice
BewilderedKat :nonbinary_flag: (@h3mmy@lgbtqia.space)
LGBTQIA.SpaceLisa
in reply to BewilderedKat • • •@h3mmy Yes, yours are super cute!
I’ve made a few DIY button ones over the years too. (And it’s a universal truth that any queer friend group has at least one button press at any given time.)
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in reply to UltraSunshine • • •@UltraSunshine that's really pretty!
I tend to wear bracelets and other accessories that subtly signal who I am and what I'm in to.
UltraSunshine
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in reply to Der Schrank • • •@der_schrank I suppose you could, but I'd opt for the most extroverted one you're comfortable with (for simplicity's sake).
@Turi
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jnpegay, emphasis on the “gay”
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in reply to jnpegay, emphasis on the “gay” • • •@jepyang one of my issues with stoplight signalling is that red/green colorblindness accounts for over 90% of colorblindness, and affects about 8.5% of the population (8% of men, 0.5% of women).
So I guess that's why a lot of guys don't notice stop signs 😋
jnpegay, emphasis on the “gay”
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🏳️⚧️Cameron
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in reply to 🏳️⚧️Cameron • • •Krista, Darth Moose Shark
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •rk: it’s hyphen-minus actually
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •@old_angry_queer
When my wife and I first started dating, she came over to my apartment one night and was like “oh it’s late, I should just sleep here.”
And I was like “okay cool I’ll make up the guest bed.”
And she was like “no need to go to all that trouble.”
And I was like “oh it’s no trouble!”
You can see where this is going. Anyway, point is, you could be flirting with me quite explicitly and I’d probably not realize it until years later.
alex helvetica
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Beige CatsWhoCode
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in reply to Beige CatsWhoCode • • •@rmd1023 speaking of which, I had gotten the *impression* that one of my coworkers was flirting with me the other day, but she may have just been friendly.
I have one friend who is *extremely* affectionate to the point where it can look like flirting, but in the latter case, I know that it's her personality. Not sure about the coworker! @alice @old_angry_queer @catsalad
🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄)
in reply to Beige CatsWhoCode • • •@CatsWhoCode if it's a coworker, I assume "friendly" until they try to kiss me at a conference after-party. Then I assume what happens in Vegas stays there 😅
@rmd1023 @old_angry_queer @catsalad
Beige CatsWhoCode
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🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄)
in reply to aly • • •@aly the flirting equivalent of 纸老虎 😋
@old_angry_queer
aly
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in reply to aly • • •@aly Chinese, and it's "paper tiger".
@old_angry_queer
aly
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I'm going to make one of these as a laptop sticker. Would make a good embroidered patch on the front of a baseball cap too 😂
aly
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in reply to stu • • •@lndn you can see a lot more in this post: masto.thefword.club/@AltAfterD…
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Jen 🏳️⚧️
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •Linus Gasser
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •I specifically like the idea of wearing it on the neck.
So awkward to glance down and hope that I'm not being seen as a perv because the sticker is at the same height as the breasts... Even worse if I don't get the name at the first glance and have to take a second peek.
Putting it on the forehead would be ideal 😀
Pistolenkind
in reply to 🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) • • •Bill Hooker
in reply to Pistolenkind • • •Pistolenkind
in reply to Bill Hooker • • •Pistolenkind
in reply to Pistolenkind • • •Pistolenkind
in reply to Pistolenkind • • •For me, it's funny and embarrassing to imagine myself circling all the people with a pink dot, avoiding their field of vision like in Metal Gear. Because I REALLY do shit like that. Hilarious, actually.
🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄)
in reply to Pistolenkind • • •@Pistolenkind and yet you chat with me 😋
@sennoma
Pistolenkind
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in reply to Pistolenkind • • •@Pistolenkind rawr
(I'm super scary 😋)
@sennoma
Luna
in reply to Pistolenkind • • •🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄)
in reply to Luna • • •@nyovaya sounds like a 4th sticker is needed. One that stands for "I'm autistic; flirt harder".
@Pistolenkind
EVHaste
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in reply to EVHaste • • •Beige CatsWhoCode
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