Sometimes I really understand why so many trans women walk away and fade into the background a few years after transition.
Watching us make the same mistakes again and again and again because we constantly eat our own and our history is doing my head in.
As is having to unfollow/block the useful idiots with their “if we could all just sit down and LISTEN to the people who want us dead, we could find common ground”.
I get it. I was once the same.
It’s bullshit, and in this climate, the sort of bullshit that hastens what’s coming for us.
I think I can weather this storm, but many can’t. Some of the ones who won’t be able to are the same ones currently desperate to give the gathering clouds the benefit of the doubt.
The pathetic thing is, what they’re doing isn’t even respectability politics in any meaningful sense, because the people they’re trying to convince are themselves playing respectability politics. It’s trickle down respectability politics.
Reminds me of the time I came home from school to find the cat meowing at the dog to open the door and let them both in.
Dear god, I need a drink.
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Unknown parent • •@Moria K. Drake 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈 To be fair, I used to get suckered in by the same bullshit.
The main reason for my “for fuck’s sake” attitude is that I transitioned 20 years ago and have seen this play out multiple times before.
It’s a fool me once, shame on you, kind of situation.
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Unknown parent • •@Moria K. Drake 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈 The stakes feel higher. And there are more of us now.
But this exact same shit happened on LiveJournal in the trans communities in 2008. Like, exactly the fucking same.
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in reply to Sarah Brown • •@Moria K. Drake 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈 that was the one that taught me that for all their “mean girls” cliquey shit, the ones paying respectability politics really have very little recourse if you just tell them, and everybody buzzing round them like flies round a turd, to go fuck themselves.
Sure, they’ll tell everyone who listens for years afterwards that you are “problematic”, but most people will either realise they’re full of shit, or just nod politely and go back to what they were previously thinking about.
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Something I've seen a lot of recently too is people who came out in the past 5-7 years making authoritative statements on what things were like years before they transitioned, and just kind of freezing those of us who were there out of the conversation, telling us that we have it wrong, etc. Plus people will post that we don't even exist within the community and it's so sad that we've all died or woodworked.
IDK it just feels like the hostility to existing as an openly trans woman for longer than say a decade (and often much less) is geared toward pushing us out of that visibility.
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