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People often ask what it's like to be trans, because it seems to be a very hard thing to imagine.

A friend, sadly no longer with us, once put it absolutely perfectly to me, when she said, "It shouldn't matter what sex you are while you're cleaning the oven, but it does."

It's that simple.

in reply to Sarah Brown

If a man asks, frame it in terms he will follow.

It is like being a Man U supporter who has to go to Man C games and wear Man C shirts all the time.

If a woman asks, it is enjoying annoying J K Rowling just by existing.