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You know how neurotypical people talk about how they make and hold eye contact?

It’s a lie. They do no such thing. I can do it on ADHD meds and if you don’t look away it really freaks them out.

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Koen Hufkens, PhD
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Yep, I think there are only two situations when this is acceptable/true. You are in love with someone, or you are about to bash someone's head in.
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Koen Hufkens, PhD
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In and out groups, whatever intolerant shenanigans I guess.
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Heather 👻
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funny, a consultant psychiatrist on the NHS told me I had very poor eye contact which indicated autism not ADHD 🤔 it's almost like they make the eye contact shite up.

(Also omg yesterday I realised it was a week since your last post and I thought the orcas got you 😱)

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Sarah Brown
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@Heather 👻 nah. They’re busy sinking shit in Galicia for the next couple of months. East Biscay is currently safe from them. It is not, however, safe from Extra Tropical Storm Erin.
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Heather 👻
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Dang, that Erin gets everywhere. Are you still on the high seas or in harbour?
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Ailbhe
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only exactly the right amount of eye contact is acceptable and they don't even know when someone IS making eye contact anyway.
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Sarah Brown
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@Ailbhe yeah. apparently five minutes without blinking is “creepy”. They’re never satisfied. 🙄
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Momo
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Shit yes!! You're absolutely right! I always found that strange and thought there might be an appropriate amount of time you are allowed to hold eye contact. After that both have to look away and everything is allright. They probably teach the length in neurotypical school which explains why I never learned it. 😅
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lianna
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well it wasn't about indefinite eye contact.

it's about "appropriate" eye contact, which relies on look-here-points and look-away-points, based on the context.

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lianna
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Because deaf or mute people famously cannot communicate or socialise?

Socialisation is more than words. For autists like us as well. It's just a sense we're missing, like sight or hearing.

It's part of why I started studying linguistics. I get to learn the academic description of how all that works, which rules and patterns nonverbal communication follows, and where exactly I am missing out on understanding it.

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Coffee (Team CW)
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Them: You know, you should maintain eye contact instead of looking away.
Me: Ok. [ Acquiring target ] [ Target locked ] [ Tracking target... ] [
Staaaare zzzZZZZ... ]
Them: NOT LIKE THAT! ASFHGKLJ;DWAUGH
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