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I tried eating fruit but the onboarding was confusing. I have to choose from apple, banana, orange? How is a normal user supposed to navigate this complexity
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Getting some annoyed responses to this. Look it's up to you if you don't want to take UX seriously, but you can't expect fruit to reach a mainstream audience if you don't solve the onboarding issues
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it is a funny point but you're likely getting annoyed replies (which I can't see because "fediverse stuff") as you appear to be defending a deeply important issue by using a false comparison. Fruit complexity does not let the fediverse off the hook


I witnessed another trans person's deed poll today. A bit more involved, necessitating a trip to the solicitor, because he's 14, but nevertheless it reminded me of the surreal socially distanced signing dance I did during lockdown for my deed poll with @Zoë O'Connell and @Sarah Brown

It didn't have to be me that signed -- it could have been anyone who knew him and his parents -- but I felt privileged to do it, passing on some part of the support other trans people gave me.


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Me: Chatty as all hell, wants to babble at the world constantly

Also me: Terribly shy about one-on-one conversations, hasn't used Telegram regularly in months

Also also me: HI HELLO GIVE ME ATTENTION

Also also also me: NO NOT LIKE THAT

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I first wrote about having a gender other than "male" or "female" in 1994 (as far as I can trust dates on old files.)

That's 29 years ago.

I've transitioned to change my outward appearance since then, but the same gender identity has remained at the core of it.

People were still scraping around for words to describe this experience in English back then. The web as something the general public, for such of the general public as had internet access, was less than a year old. Eventually it became something where we could connect, sort out our terminology and titles, raise a flag.

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#InternationalNonbinaryDay #nonbinary #enby

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So now I can say, I'm agender, one of the many expressions falling under the non-binary umbrella. And I've known and identified (although not necessarily using that word) for nearly 30 years. And I'm in my 50s now.

Being non-binary is not a new thing. It's not a fad, not just something "the kids" are into.

We have always been here.

(Although it usually feels like I'm having to carve out the elder non-binary pathway on my own.)

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#InternationalNonbinaryDay #nonbinary #enby

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About myself, I still get that sinking feeling you get when you first walk into an overwhelmingly messy room. Over a decade of talking therapy didn't help. I'm just trying to help now and find out what could be useful to do and be, and not worry too much about it.

“I feel as if I were a piece in a game of chess, when my opponent says of it: That piece cannot be moved.”
― Soren Kierkegaard

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I also don't want to blunder around with the privilege of my upbringing and trample on things, which I'm fearful of. I've made lots of mistakes and I don't trust myself any more. I just don't have a good brain for this kind of stuff. It's too cotton-wooly.

I'm really pleased that there are more words and groups today, and people who can find their place. On the other side, the political landscape is much worse. It's been wonderful seeing so many of my friends grow.

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I was going to write some more, but I'm doing the write, delete, think, write, delete thing, which is basically where I've been for a long time in my head, so I'll stop.

But even though I don't write or do much about it, you and the other of my friends absolutely have my support, and it is a comfort to me to see that it is possible for other folk to work this stuff out, and I'll do my best to support.

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@chiffchaff What decades (on and off) of therapy have done for me, although I've only comparatively recently realised it, is bring focus on one corner of the messy room of my head, and help sort that out in such a way that it *stays* sorted. It *is* too overwhelming to sort out in one operation, and trying to do so, or thinking that this is what you're going to achieve, is just going to lead to failure and more clutter.

(Talking generally here. Gender was just one corner of the room for me, which I mostly managed on my own and just needed the professional help to make sure it wasn't going to get messy again.)

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mh- meta
@chiffchaff I mean I've got gender in one corner of the room, depression in another, relationship difficulties and associated grief in a third, and we should probably make space for sexuality. Then there's the mental side of living with chronic physical health conditions, and where they meet in the middle is a big pile of stress, and once you've cleared enough space to navigate around the room you discover a deep dark alcove full of cPTSD.
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yup! I first identified myself as "not a boy, not a girl, but both and neither" in 1997 or so, though I didn't dare express that truth to anyone else.

Now there are thriving communities of us, and I've got labels to describe myself that I'd never heard of before: non-binary, genderfluid, bigender.

But I'm still that same person. I was always here, I've just stopped hiding. :blobcat_flagEnby:

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@Anya_Adora Oh, I cut out the thing about the effects of colonialism when trying to get it down to a reasonable length, didn't I?

Yeah.

There were words there (like "epicene" -- that one's not survived) but under the weight of cishetetc normativity and without a ubiquitous internet, it was difficult to find each other, to find the community that could even safely talk about what it meant to be like us, to find the commonality (and differences) that would let us develop a language beyond the medicalising, the othering, and the purely personal.



I think I’m ill suited to social media, because of my unwillingness to argue at length with things I think are probably not true but of which I don’t have encyclopaedic knowledge.

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I replied to one of your toots earlier and deleted my reply for this reason. I realised I'd accidentally said "relativistic effects" (which affect *electrons* of big atoms) instead of "non-spherical effects" (which affect *nuclei* of big atoms) and suddenly realised someone who could plausibly make such a mistake clearly doesn't know what they're on about, and what was I playing at, there's probably an actual nuclear physicist on your TL. So I deleted it. So you're not alone in this! 😀

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Please, please, please YouTubers of the world.

"The essay" is an educational tool, not an engaging presentation format. That "paragraph intake of breath" is so depressing. There's so much great material in these things, but I do wish people would study public *lectures*.

For millennia people have been perfecting it in all kinds of varieties to suit personalities, access, etc.

"Like a video message from someone being kept hostage by an evil history postdoc" is one of the *less* successful.

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Mental Health


CN: mental health

My mental health remains somewhat wobbly, as it has been for a month or two now. There have been two absolute low points, one "head buzzing so much with despair" and one of the form where the world is a treacle of minor chords and even being present feels like an effort that can't be guaranteed. In between it's been recovery and walking a sort of narrow path on the edge, as if solid rock can be felt to one side and an abyss to the other. A forgetfulness of joy, too, as if I have lost the object permanence of love.

I have CBT starting next month. I have an appointment with my GP potentially to adjust antidepressant doses. I've got the endocrinologist tomorrow. The things I can do apart from just hanging on, I am doing. (To be clear, I'm not a danger to myself or anyone else.)



Caster Semenya won her case in the ECHR yesterday. Only the legal summary is currently available in English: “Discrimination against professional athlete with differences of sex development who was required under non-State regulations to lower her natural testosterone level to compete in women’s category in international competitions: violation”.

The judgment in French is at hudoc.echr.coe.int/%7B%22appno… ; I’ll toot the official English translation when it appears





Normal instruction leaflet. “DEAR MASTER, IT'S MY PLEASURE TO SERVE YOU!
In order to serve you better, I wanna share you some secrets about myself and beg your pardon. I'm sorry when I become loud during high-pressure inflation 2 min after starting, as I'm pumping on full throttle!”

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David Tennant, of Dr Who fame, apparently said some pro trans things and now the TERFs are going after him on Twitter. His response is that he isn't worried because, and I quote, "I'll be fine, Terfs can't climb stairs"

I want that on a T-shirt. No, I NEED that on a T-shirt!

ETA: Apparently it was a parody account that said the stairs line. I still want it on a T-shirt.

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Am having trouble so far finding an explanation/breakdown of what "terfs can't climb stairs" means exactly.

Am not posting this looking for enlightenment specifically. Though it would be nice & appreciated, of course.

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Tennant didn’t say the line, but he is pretty awesome on trans issues. The whole thing exploded because of a t-shirt he was wearing. In addition, he’s been wearing a nonbinary pride pin to all his public appearances for some time, apparently in support of one of his kids.

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Increased Seismic activity in Iceland. 🇮🇸
Not erupting... Yet. But some webcams are ready.
eruption.acme.to/

#Iceland #Eruption #Seismic #LiveStream

Stay tuned

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The Grand Canal, Venice. A #slitscan from Casino di Venezia to Ponte delle Guglie, using a vaporetto (waterbus) as a slow, steady scanning support, using a suction-cup camera mount inside the window.

#photography #slitscan

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Since I managed to find it and someone elsenet was asking about the “U.K. trans asylum in NZ case”…

AL (United Kingdom) [2017] NZIPT 502911

forms.justice.govt.nz/search/D…

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Oh, just in case you were wondering why you had an extra follow request from me. I decided to start using friendica more. A compact and bijou Mac Mini goatery appears to be more reliable than mastodon.online. I’m still in both places mind, hedging my bets.


I love it when they threaten us with a good time. tech.lgbt/@gourdcaptain/110438…


theverge.com/2023/5/25/2373711…

OpenAI threatening to leave the EU if they pass legislation requiring them to list their data sources because:
"In addition to the possible business threat, forcing OpenAI to identify its use of copyrighted data would expose the company to potential lawsuits. Generative AI systems like ChatGPT and DALL-E are trained using large amounts of data scraped from the web, much of it copyright protected. When companies disclose these data sources it leaves them open to legal challenges."

Like every other boom tech company, it's just doing labor crimes and theft and claiming you're actually too innovative to be regulated, God.

#OpenAI #ArtTheft




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Some trans women breastfeed and conservatives have a LOT of feelings about that, which they're determined to make all of our problem.

For Assigned today I wrote about the latest right-wing meltdown over trans people doing a thing, compared it to coverage of cis adoptive mothers using the same method for inducing lactation trans moms do, and dived into the science of lactation (which for me is always the most fun part). #trans #journalism #science

assignedmedia.org/breaking-new…

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Hey, I really enjoyed the article, thanks for sharing it. I hadn't seen this magazine before, glad to know it exists.



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Guy who works as a gas plumber in the UK and becomes a furry just so their fursona can be a corgi so they literally can say all their gas installations are Corgi certified (ren this is so specific a joke not a single person outside of the UK and/or at least as old as you is gonna get it why even make this toot)

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Link Post: 57 different scripts that all descended from Egyptian hieroglyphs (from Latin to Aramaic to Tibetan to Javanese) starkeycomics.com/2018/12/11/t…

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What am I good at that people might pay me money for?


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I never knew you that well when you were at Maths, but I remember having mentally noted you as one of the more competent COs. So I'm sure you could easily do that again, if you wanted. And I'm not *just* saying that because I'm hiring right now... jobs.cam.ac.uk/job/41784/ 😁

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@Sarah Brown Erm ok, I’ll take your word for that! Maybe it’s an assumed default.


Being a Secondary Victim is a Bad Joke


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Museum of Cambridge - Preserving the Past - Archiving


This afternoon I went with @WOMUMP and @ceb to a thing at the Museum of Cambridge where we talked about the challenges of preserving and displaying their collection and how, given limited space, you choose what to display and how you want to say that.

share.icloud.com/photos/07ec9X…



Can threatening trans people on Twitter with defamation actions be harassment


transphobia

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I don't have the effort to make the changes myself, but I think editing the templates in friendica/view/theme/*/templates could allow one to add a simple CW button to the Friendica comment/post editor UI to generate the bbcode abstract tag. More work would be needed to make this visible in Friendica itself, though it is converted on federation to something that Mastodon understands.

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Water, sun, stone, beryl, borax, coal, saltpeter, acid, flow, new, headache, Magnesia, alum, flint, Venus, brimstone, pale green, lazy



Do Americans really have washing machines that look like this? I worry about the structural integrity of the "waist"

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Why don't they simplify it and make the washing machine front loading? I don't think I've ever seen a top loading washing machine in the UK


I wonder whether subscribing to the RSS feed of legislation.gov.uk was actually such a clever idea...