One of the hard bits of social media is feeling that the approval of people on the internet is important, and that their disapproval is to be avoided at all costs, even if it means avoiding discussion for fear of having a Wrong Take.
I was always confused by the choice, given that platforms 9 and 10 were out in the shed to the side with two tracks between them (although it looks like they've renumbered 11 as 10 and there are only two tracks there now). First time I saw the 9 3/4 exhibit it didn't have a queue of people. I was mildly amused by it, even if it was in completely the wrong place.
@David Hough They lost one of the platforms in the suburban station, yes. It went as part of the Thameslink Programme because the paths into suburban are the same ones needed to access the tunnel into the Thameslink core.
@David Hough Railing’s stupid invention would have sort of worked had they re-numbered after opening platform 0 because then 9 and 10 (present 8 and 9) would have had what is now the floor under the Parcel Yard pub between them.
@David Hough The lesson in all this is that if you’re gonna be a massive transphobe, you need to make damn sure the shit about trains in your books is watertight because WE WILL KNOW.
Bordeaux is a wine that definitely needs aging. If you'd told me that you were drinking 5 year old Bordeaux in the bath I would have worried about you.
In my wine classes, I was taught that for drinking in the bath (usually a shared bath) a red sparkling wine is a good choice (my preference is a quality Lambrusco).
@Alexa Devreux-Swift So look, I emptied the bin because it wasn't the dishwasher. Now I had to put my keys back and take my shoes off and return the bin and put a liner in it and throw away some chicken bones and take my teabag out of my mug and put milk in and close the fridge and drink the tea and then maybe I can stare at the dishwasher a bit more.
Yes. That is how I think. No. I did not know it wasn't normal.
The more I come to terms with the pervasiveness of the ADHD I’ve been in denial about for so long, the more it utterly blows my mind how *alien* the way neurotypicals see the world is.
Honestly, it’s just pervasive. Attitudes to snacking. The idea that unloading the dishwasher doesn’t have to be soul destroying. That listening to someone talking slowly doesn’t have to be enraging. That holding on to transient thoughts is possible. That you can stop the music. That you can just DO something even if it’s not urgent or interesting. That emotions aren’t zero or a million decibels. That hyperfocus isn’t a thing for them. That it’s not a constant fight against self loathing for not doing the thing. That they can just switch off. That telling someone that something that’s bothering them isn’t that important is actually supposed to help rather than annoy. That you don’t have to constantly seek approval that you’ll never get. That burnout doesn’t have to be a sword of Damocles.
@llwynog what, you mean people don't battle almost every day at work forcing themselves to do stuff and beating themselves up for all the stuff they didn't manage? That they're not expecting to be fired for all the work that didn't happen, and dreading the call that never comes?
Also in retrospective it shows that a lot of work isn't actually important bc no-one notices when you don't do it. Although I am very good at doing other things that get some attention so that helps.
A less charitable definition is "a dev on a team with Big Ideas, that does not want to reach an agreement with their co-workers, but instead asserts their will unilaterally".
Why does all the personal funding require current enrollment in school? Why are all the internships only for students? Why do those certain jobs only hire recent graduates?
Age discrimination for exploitative employment of children under thirty
Courtesy of @kæt I’m reading about Indra’s Net, which is interesting to use as a metaphorical way of looking at the complexity (and futility?) of causes and effects in relational networks. en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Indra'…
100% bet that original poster had childhood emotional neglect and/or serious self esteem issues so has no idea whats coming or going (at least from my personal experience of all that)
I applied for a job a few weeks ago and got an invitation back from them to do an "matrix reasoning test": a sort of IQ type thing where you had to figure out which shape went in the gap. I think I failed pretty comprehensively and then ran out of time.
You know what sort of chat you’re having when you describe someone’s sense of self as “kinda ergative-absolutive aligned” and get a reply considering “if Descartes were from Cumberland”…
Severance: I want to love it, but I can't help thinking they're doing the Lost and BSG(2004) thing of "jerk the viewer around because we didn't actually think beyond the elevator pitch" thing.
similar on my trip today if I didn't know the number already, I'm not sure I would be able to pick it out - also on trains today, and the accent of the announcer on Northern means "see" and "say" sound exactly the same and it's oddly jarring.
From a 1943 article. "Standard contracts in particular could thus become effective instruments in the hands of powerful industrial and commercial overlords enabling them to impose a new feudal order of their own making upon a vast host of vassals."
Cambridge doesn’t operate on the basis of teaching you how to do things; it just assumes you can and looks and says “how sad” if you e.g. turn out to have no idea how to write an essay.
(Thing I just wrote in DMs, and thought worth grousing about in public.)
Argh slow speech. My mind wanders between each word.
In discussion with friend who prefers instructional videos: yes sometimes you need to watch what to do, but most of the time gimme the text. It should be an alternative for many (most?) things.
@ajlanes there'll be a time when Youtube Longs can be made to loop like YouTube Shorts, and people will be vying to make videos where it's hard to tell that it's even happened.
@StrangeNoises @ajlanes How about having a coherent list of error codes and what does they mean instead of heaps of barely useful videos, infuriating ms support pages and quora paywalled articles or a frigging AI?
you have managed to perfectly convey this feeling in this post. kudos.
If it helps: If the video has a transcript (next to the description) you can search that with ctrl f. But it is still a video, the least dense form of this kind of information.
The high-speed rail link between Porto and Vigo, in Spain, will be completed in 2032, giving the North of Portugal and Galicia “a unique geostrategic position”, according to the Minister of Infrastructure.
Well now I'm going to have to reconsider the old advice for what to do if life gives me lemons. Though to be honest, I'd always suspected that I'd make limoncello anyway.
Things I say to therapists that I then have to unpick in my own head after I've said them, number 772 in a series. "She is a disbeliever in her own power, yet afraid of it."
I just had an appointment with my endocrinologist, which went very differently to what I was expecting. In particular, she prescribed me testosterone. Now, I know cis women have it too, but the idea of deliberately giving myself my nemesis is quite squicky.
@Eleanor LNR Blair Broadly, unless I don’t take my antidepressants for a couple of days, I find I don’t get turned on very much or for very long, and sensations around my vagina, clit, and tits are very muted. Orgasm consists of little more than thigh cramps. This feels unsatisfactory
@lnr This is a pretty well known side effect of some SSRIs, though, isn't it? I realise that endo's might tend to prescribe from a limited pallette, but I do wonder if they prescribe T for cis women in your situation? Maybe they do. Either way, that might be an interesting data-point.
@chiffchaff that's exactly what I was going to say! (about it being a common side effect) I don't think I ever brought it up though, just kind of accepted it! So I don't know if they suggest T for it. I think T *does* get prescribed for cis women in some circumstances, occasionally as part of menopausal HRT even, but it's pretty unusual.
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