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Trans actual challenge GnRH analogue (so-called puberty blockers) ban in court.

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Deep fat fryer is caked in sodium stearate, which should tell you terrifying things about how I clean it and deal with the problem of disposing of used cooking oil.
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@Adam Sodium stearate is water soluble, non toxic, and fun for all the family to make!
@Adam
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sure, but recycling lets them turn it into biofuel or whatever, and it means I can keep my bucket of NaOH for degunging the sink.
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I've saponified small amounts of oil in the past in the UK when it's been too much to flush otherwise.
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@Adam Portugal, having been blessed without a domestic terrorism problem, has DIY barns in which NaOH is at the milder end of what you can just plop into the self checkout. I call that section, “the bomb making aisle”. It’s quite fun.

Anyway, upshot is, I’ve got bloody kilos and kilos of the stuff.

@Adam
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@pseudomonas there's a Portuguese chap on y'tube that always seems to have access to some very interesting chemicals. This explains it.
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!Friendica Support Hey lovely people.

So I have a contact that my server can’t update. The Update Contact gets added to the queue and just sits there forever, consuming CPU.

If I go into the MariaDB and delete the worker queue entry, it will be back in a few hours.

If I server block the remote contact, the problem goes away. If I remove the block it comes back.

Is this symptomatic of my database being somehow corrupt, or maybe there’s a problem with that particular remote profile that causes Friendica to fail in a way that never times out (and I’ve left it there for days. It just doesn’t go).

I have no idea how to get diagnostic output from the worker to find out what’s going on. Anyone interested in looking more at this, or should I just block the contact and move on?

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It hast nothing to do with your database, I'm convinced. I guess that the probing for that contact has got some issue. Can you name the contact here?
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@Michael Vogel Also, blocking the remote contact causes the job to disappear from the queue in a few minutes, so it looks like it's repeatedly trying something and failing, and doesn't ever seem to give up.

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Stroll around Cape St Vincent earlier. Clifftop windswept sunny edge-of-the-world goodness!


Today, at the notary office:

Notary: Sarah, Sylvia, what date did you get married?

Us: Um, er, that question is a lot more complicated than you think it is. Which time?



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Reform is about to overtake the tories in the polls. This just removes the last obstacle to the media making their love affair with Farage a 24/7 on-screen thing.

The drift to the far right and subsequent implosion of the Conservative Party is going to leave a void in UK politics that seriously risks being filled by actual nazis, and competent ones at that. I fear for the future.

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The western media is acting as the megaphone for the bastards who want to burn the world, because it "gets clicks".


The paradox of tolerance applies here. It is about time the media is reined in, before they bloody get us all killed.

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The Tory party going hard right as a knee-jerk response to the challenges of the modern world, and then falling apart from its own insistence on refusing to adapt to reality, is a grim foreshadowing of what is going to happen to the west in general in the face of climate change and demographic reality.

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Reaching the point where you can think in a language you didn’t grow up speaking: magical

Your brain deciding THIS HAS TO OCCUR AT 3am: not magical

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Reaching the point where you can think in a language you didn’t grow up speaking: magical

Your brain deciding THIS HAS TO OCCUR AT 3am: not magical



Guys, you can’t have Erich Honeker back. He’s dead.

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I hear you’re a transphobe now, father?

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@mobbsy @sparrowsion @lnr Quite. "People of Colour" doesn't seem to have caught on over here, either. Maybe it's because it's got the kind of contorted grammar that comes with HR and train announcements. I'm happy to take direction on this, of course.

I'm mainly impressed by America's ability to turn everything into a noun with a badge and a day and a song and a flag and a page in a book of etiquette.

Okay, they then seem to mainly throw their creation into the basement and forget about it, but that *machine* which turns problems into product is quite awe-inspiring.

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Speaking of the Chinese, how about some of these flags being made on home turf for once.
The Chinese benefit from all of these gatherings.
Peeps in the community could benefit greatly if this were so.

#MakeHomemadePrideFlagsAThing.

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!Friendica Support Hey all.

The top two jobs here have been stuck for 4 days.

Is there a way I can remove them?

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They’re still there. I deleted the cron container and recreated it and they haven’t gone away.

Will they ever go away? These are clearly some sort of zombie.

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Update: I deleted them manually from the workerqueue database in mariadb. Doesn't seem to have caused any harm, touchwood.

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spoiler for ATV+ “Sugar”

Binged this last night. Got to Ep 2 and was like, “well someone’s been reading Inversions”.

Fucking called it.



Bastards stole my vote in these elections and I am desperate to get it back.

If you have one, please don't waste it!


EU, it is time to #UseYourVote!

Across the European Union, voting booths are ready to welcome you!

The Netherlands 🇳🇱 voted yesterday, and today is Czechia 🇨🇿, Estonia 🇪🇪 and Ireland 🇮🇪’s turn.

Our Union should never be taken for granted.
Defend it, shape it.

#EUelections2024




I see Sunak has been winning hearts and minds in his dwindling core vote by buggering off home early from the D-Day commemoration.

Even Farage managed to stay to the end, and his side lost.

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Someone had to represent the Nazis, and the German government didn't want to.


Lot of fun trying out a custom hardboard today. Fell in love! Ordered one.


Thank you for purchasing item packaged in cardboard. For your convenience, it has a resealable flap, stuck down with glue, which is guaranteed to be far stronger than the cardboard it’s stuck to.

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Outrage as cis woman treated like trans woman. independent.co.uk/news/uk/home…
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@Catherine is Tired @Sarah Brown Notionally because she would have had the advantage (citation needed) of a "male puberty" (citation needed) and stronger bones (citation needed) and deprived a "real" woman (citation needed) of a win.

Cetacean needed - maybe we can persuade the orcas that terfs are more fun than rudders.



You’re walking in some single sex biological woods. Would you rather encounter a trans woman, or Kemi Badenoch?
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Not sure I'd want to be in those woods in the first place.

Trans women over TERFs every time. My earliest experience of single-sex spaces online as a baby cis bi woman was TERFs gender policing other women and they were unsurprisingly biphobic and like 14yr old mean girls. I didn't like it age 17 before I knew many trans folks, I'm certainly not liking it now I'm 40+, know hundreds of trans folks and have zero fucks left to give for bullshit and hate.

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Kemi, as proof of there being shit in the woods without any bears involved.


The irony of the TERF brain worm trust going on about “female homosexuals” (god help us all if TERFs ever master the ability to sound like a normal human being) is that cis lesbians are pretty much the least transphobic demographic and entirely sick of TERFs’ bullshit.

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TERFs tell on themselves so hard, I can guarantee right behind TERFery is biphobia, racism and disablism. They're eugenicist AF.


People often ask what it's like to be trans, because it seems to be a very hard thing to imagine.

A friend, sadly no longer with us, once put it absolutely perfectly to me, when she said, "It shouldn't matter what sex you are while you're cleaning the oven, but it does."

It's that simple.

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If a man asks, frame it in terms he will follow.

It is like being a Man U supporter who has to go to Man C games and wear Man C shirts all the time.

If a woman asks, it is enjoying annoying J K Rowling just by existing.




The reason I am a liberal: if I had absolute power, there would be so many bodies. I would do it with the best of intentions.

I am a liberal because I believe nobody should ever have that kind of power.

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if you're leaving bodies you need a bigger plasma cannon...
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Liberalism is not so much about what powers people have, but what powers people are prevented from having.


UK Pol, state sponsored transphobia

Apparently the Tory press is going to lead with their desire to remove all equality protection in law for trans people.

Ineptly because, it turns out, they don’t understand equalities legislation.

And also they’re going to get annihilated so they can’t do it anyway.

But it seems this is now accepted political discourse in the UK, and I would like one, just one opposition party to have the balls to say in response, “you are terrorising trans people and you need to stop”.

But they won’t, because all parties in the UK (yes, all of them) have quite a few people who actually agree with the Tories on this, and it’s more important to avoid upsetting these people than it is to take a stand and say that what amounts to state sponsored terrorism against a minority of your population who just want to live in peace is wrong.

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I remember canvassing my council ward in 2012 as a well regarded Liberal Democrat councillor. They phoned their neighbours so they could get their abuse ready.

And after I lost my seat 2 years later, they all told me how much they liked me.

I can’t imagine how much worse it must be for this guy.

Still, I find it difficult to have sympathies for the people who stole our EU citizenship and declared war on trans people.

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What’s the suspected motivation for standing down beyond no hope of reelection? If I read the article correctly, the PM is putting his allies in easy to win districts - is that’s what’s going to happen here?

Thank you and apologies but I barely understand my own country’s politics.



There’s an HRT shortage in Portugal.

I have been going round different pharmacists. Usually they give me estrofem. This time I got Zumenon.

Allegedly they’re both the same forumation of estradiol hemihydrate.

So why the hell have I just collapsed in inconsolable tears with absolutely no ability to explain why?

FFS

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@Sarah Brown @Dawn Blackbird Weirdly I had some a couple of days ago without changing dose etc. Wonder if there's a hormone-absorbtion related bug going around. (I remember the first time you got Zumenon in Portugal you tried to learn the words "not that one it makes my tits hurt")


Reading r/BestOfRedditUpdates and thanking whatever deities that be relevant for not being cishet because, OMG you guys, a lot of these people are in relationships that are basically wars of attrition.
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glad I am in a NerdSpace, as everyone I know seems to be in a decent relationship...
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@Kincaid Maybe it’s neurotypical people I need to feel bad for. How do their lives get like that?
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@kincaid

I've thought about this one.

A lot of people play the Game of Life(1) because they think that's what they're meant to do. Then, halfway around the metaphorical board, something makes them self-examine for the first time, and they realise they don't have to play. But because of the sunk cost fallacy, they can't quit. But if they can make their partner give up instead, then they "win".

1) As in Hasbro, not Conway.

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And it happens less among people whose sexuality, gender, neurotype, or thing I don't know enough about to name, differ from standard issue.

Because, I think, realising that we are one or more of those things, early in our lives, mean that we learn to self-examine sooner. It does still happen, of course, and heaven knows there are plenty of arseholes in those categories. But it means we can see the issue, more of the time.

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@shinydan @kincaid I think you're right about that. I think it also kind of weans people off identifying themselves with the system (I don't mean "identify" in the modern sense, but as in a kind of lack of resolving of the person and the norm into distinct objects).
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@shinydan @kincaid Game of Life(1)

1) I was thinking you'd found a man page. That would be very useful, tbh.

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@chiffchaff @kincaid I wouldn't say no to a man page oh no, sorry, I misunderstood.
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The poly cishets are probably fine. Whats important is finding enough queerness to be happy.

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i’m zoomin. i’m zumenon
i’m rolling
i’m rolling on
and on
and on and on and on



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@alexandria I started diy because I had no interest in socially transitioning and that wasn't an option.

Anyway when I did go to my gp she said "I assume you won't quit if I tell you to" yup. Here's a prescription, being monitored by a Dr is way more healthy than doing it yourself. I'll read up on the subject, come see me in 3 months

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also a lot of people do #DIYHRT all the time, even when it's theoretically possible to get meds in their juristiction simply because of #privacy being compromized and other risks ...


Ah, the joy of watching someone suddenly realise that mammals are named that because we have tits.
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@Nicovel0 Problem with that is that Sarah is lactose intolerant and SarahMilk contains lactose.
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@Nicovel0 Didn’t make enough milk for that. Really wanted to save up for cheese.


Only Gen X will understand how painfully cool this is.


Ok, I appreciate that this is the epitome of 1st world problems. I am not looking for sympathy here.

But having 2 homes in different countries is weird. You end up duplicating shit to stop feeling strangely displaced.

I have the same worktop in both kitchens. The same desk. The same TV cabinet. The same door lock.

I. HAVE. THE. SAME. LIGHTBULBS.

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@Ozzy nah. One coffee machine cost 6 times what the other cost. Also, Portugal just has better coffee.
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Just saw this via the London Reconnections blog and, oh my god, I think you could not do a worse job of redesigning the tube map if you tried.

“Paint all the lines the same colour. Send a train into London centre from Zone 6. Which identically coloured line does it emerge from on the other side? Fuck knows. Good luck!”

I mean, look at Oxford Circus? Which are the through lines? No? Me neither.

And this is promoted as “accessible”. God help us all.


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@girlonthenet
It feels so wrong on so many levels.

Even the train frequency is rather confusing rather than helpful on the map. It doesn't offer choice. If I want to get from A to B I usually can't choose a more frequent lines but have to choose the lines which get me there. Same applies to mode of transport.

Additionally, this would mean all maps need to be reprinted if the frequency is changed.

Oh, and the frequency distinction is ridiculously precise. And is there any line with ❤ minutes frequency? I certainly can't see any at the first glance

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@Sarah Brown Looks like Kenneth made a fool of himself in an official mapping product blog, but at least the actual London transportation map is safe.


Someone on Bluesky yesterday was like, “actually how about national service for Boomers and Gen X doing customer service jobs?”

And I’m like, you want to put me, a nerd with zero fucks given and oppositional defiance tendencies, into a customer service job that I can’t get fired from?

You know Police Academy, right? You remember Mahoney, right?

I would have SO MUCH fun!

(And yes, I have worked customer service, but back then I needed to be polite to the ghastliest of customers)

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@Ghost of Hope I remember in the first year of cadets, the senior NCOs had been to Germany camp and it was raining so they were made to give us a presentation about it.

And they reeled off the list of aircraft they saw, and then said, “what else do you find in Germany?”

I put my hand up.

“Cadet Brown?”

“Germans”

I got this.

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@Ghost of Hope See? IT’S TAKEN 34 YEARS TO APPRECIATE MY COMIC GENIUS!

They just made me write an essay on “why it’s important not to disrupt class”.



Dear UK TERFs, I just used a female loo in the UK, and have this to say:

Fuck sake. Some of you are fucking animals. If you piss on the fucking seat, fucking wipe it up, FFS.

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Found these massive anal beads by the back entrance to Liverpool Street Station

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@Maddie T Liverpool Street is in London…
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One of Nederlands towns had a Xmas buttplug once. I do not see a reason why London should not have anal beads.


Someone just exhaled their vape in my face. My body took objection to this and immediately tried to die.

One second I was breathing. The next I was not.

Fun (am ok now. Bit of a headache)

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@Neil Brown being scared uses oxygen. Can’t afford that. Just get the ventolin in.


Changing from crossrail to the jubilee line highlights how badly the 90’s “techno” styling of the jubilee line extension is ageing. It just feels gloomy and oppressive.
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yeah canary wharf specifically has a bit of a dystopian feel to it seen in the current time. It used to just look scifi but now it looks ‘the bad guys in scifi’
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It's always seemed a slightly depressing riff on grey-and-vast Estate Agent Fascist.

I think about that time there was quite a lot of aesthetic fetish for spies and the security services, paramilitary police units, vigelante cops, etc (the GoldenEye and Tomorrow Never Dies era) a kind of "Dirty Harry"-seque uptick.

Especially with it being Westminster it all just seems like a tired and vaguely offensive cliche.



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