I remember this topic coming up at my university (mixed) halls of residence, and one of the guys turning to one of the girls and saying โEmma, guys wank.โ
One of the most concisely truthful bits of education Iโve ever seen. ๐
Critical Question #44 - Would you want to spend a week as someone of the opposite sex? Why/Why not?From:Critical Questions - Interval 4 of 9001 - The Quiz A...
I am delighted and relieved but I daren't hope it'll improve nationally cos Labour is only "less bad" not necessarily any good.
My area did ditch our Tory mayor tho, the one who has been distancing himself from the parliamentary party while also being the life partner of Michael Fabricant which Makes No Sense At All Cos He's A Scary Loon.
So I just had a transphobe try to piggy-back off a recent popular post I made, presumably to gain reach. i have a decent following here on fedi, but am a micro instance. They too were a micro instance. By default, people on micro instances are not easily discoverable other than by interaction, so if you have a following on one, it’s generally because you’ve built it “organically”, as it were.
They presumably thought that by posting transphobic rage bait in response to me, they could get me to reply, and my reply would federate to my followers, and then they’’d be seen.
Instead I just instantly defederated their server with no response.
They are howling into the void, and nobody is there to hear.
This is not Twitter. Just because someone replies to your thread doesn’t mean the rest of the word will see it. This is the achillies heal of bigots here. Most big instances will moderate them into oblivion, so they start micro instances, but unless people actually like what you’re saying, and interact, you simp
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So I just had a transphobe try to piggy-back off a recent popular post I made, presumably to gain reach. i have a decent following here on fedi, but am a micro instance. They too were a micro instance. By default, people on micro instances are not easily discoverable other than by interaction, so if you have a following on one, itโs generally because youโve built it โorganicallyโ, as it were.
They presumably thought that by posting transphobic rage bait in response to me, they could get me to reply, and my reply would federate to my followers, and then theyโโd be seen.
Instead I just instantly defederated their server with no response.
They are howling into the void, and nobody is there to hear.
This is not Twitter. Just because someone replies to your thread doesnโt mean the rest of the word will see it. This is the achillies heal of bigots here. Most big instances will moderate them into oblivion, so they start micro instances, but unless people actually like what youโre saying, and interact, you simply wonโt federate.
And they wonโt even know I made this post now. LMAO! LOL!
Tl;dr: ostracising arseholes works to curtail their influence and ultimately, their behaviour, and the fediverse by its nature serves to promote that ostracism.
that's a nice explanation. Thank you for this, and I'lluse this as an example the next time Ihave to explain what the Fediverse is.
Now, I'm sure there are people who will argue that this is what makes the Fediverse bad, since it's very hard to "go viral". And I'm sure I could hace been seen by more people if I started posting on, I don't know, instagram? But you know what? Quality over quantity.
@clew I think once you understand that outside the big instances, โwhat I see is not what everyone seesโ then it becomes clear. As a small instance mod, youโre like the โreadersโ lettersโ section of an old newspaper. Just because people send you stuff doesnโt mean you have to help the world see their thinky thoughts.
incidentally, this is why many activists (or faketivists) don't like fedi: they need to forcefully push their message and they can't. And one can have opposite opinions depending on whether they consider the message to be good or evil. I, for one, value this property of the fediverse very much.
#ukpol #transphobia Why does anyone still think the Guardian is a progressive newspaper? Their latest fun is an โexposรฉโ of being able to buy HRT on the internet.
So that Jurassic Park, a creature-feature starring Tyrannosaurus Rex and Velociraptor, is named after a period that occurred over seventy million years before those animals evolved.
So thereโs a thing about these right wing Americanists who want to force women back into โtraditional gender rolesโ that I donโt get: they come from the bit of America where the music is all about women in traditional gender roles, trapped in an abusive marriage, murdering their husbands.
Goodbye, Earl. (Srsly though here in the US this would more typically end with Earl murdering Wanda & probably Maryanne, too, if she lived in easy driving distance.) youtu.be/bqnrXRuebWg
Pharmacies in Portugal (verified) and Spain (unverified) will often sell oestrogen HRT over the counter to tourists without a prescription. If you watch Ryanair prices, you could day trip there for ยฃ50 or less.
This will likely be cheaper and potentially safer than using an internet pharmacy.
@Siguza Like, Iโm frequently named personally by connected TERFs in the UK as the trans woman they hate the most, and I use FAO/STN like itโs a city bus. Iโm at the, โoh, you again, hi! Usual in flight meal?โ stage with some of the cabin crew and I can confirm that UK Border Force find me wholly and entirely uninteresting. They are looking for some people. They arenโt looking for us.
(As in on Wednesday, I was in my own kitchen in the UK, making tea, exactly 40 minutes after the Ryanair flight I had been on touched its wheels to the ground and engaged its brakes. Barely broke stride for the border).
@Siguza And as for the usual in flight meal thing, the green chicken curry on Ryanair is surprisingly good, and also gluten free. Itโs my meal plan for Sunday, when I will be eating one about 10km above the Bay of Biscay.
The โrecommended legal maxโ was mentioned to me by the Thai doctor I visited because I don't have the energy to fill out all the forms in the UK, let alone wait that many years.
There may have been a misunderstanding I dunno.
It sounds like maybe I'm one of those folk who struggles with estradiol valerate as my level was 60-something I think and they said the 'target level' for a trans woman was 100.
I bought 6 months' worth of E before I left Thailand though so I'll stick with that for now.
Do you know if estradiol hemihydrate is available in Thailand? If my levels aren't great in November, maybe I can ask to go on those.
@StuffByBez the 8mg limit tends to be what the NHS and UK private providers stick with. There are patches/gel you could try. Different people react differently.
@StuffByBez @jen To my understanding this is mostly if you use overly high doses, which is sadly kinda common because medical professionals are idiots and often donโt take into account that E is an anti-androgen and prescribe full 50mg pills.
The linked document is being circulated amongst NHS service providers for young trans people. It advises cessation of ALL medical intervention for transition but goes further. It suggests that if the patient or parents continue to access trans healthcare outside their system, they should be reported to social services with the implicit threat that the children will be taken from their parents.
IF YOU ARE A YOUNG TRANS PERSON OR A PARENT OF ONE, IT IS LIKELY UNSAFE TO ENGAGE WITH NHS MENTAL HEALTH SERVICES.
@MidgePhoto โmundaneโ. Jesus fucking Christ! Talk about the banality of evil.
The fuck is wrong with these people that not only do they want us casually exterminated? They want to get up in our face on social media and gloat about it.
@ian I think they do what they can, within limits, to meet bare minimum standard โฆ if they get 6 months to respond to something, theyโll take 6 months, which is why they process with them could be 5 years before anything significant happens.
Yes, those fortunate enough can take the easier route and pay to go private, but I genuinely fear for those that donโt have that luxury, itโs heartbreaking
@grayface_ghost @StrangeNoises @cstross You're giving the British public more credit than they deserve,don't forget these are the people that gave the albino orang utan and 80 odd seat majority to do with as he wished to which he started wrecking the country. Mags happened on both sides of the Atlantic ocean we've gotta make sure it doesn't happen on this side again.
@sesquipedality I did vote for a police commissioner this time, though often I spoil the ballot. I've been less worried since it became clear they do nothing at all. But I should get back into the habit of spoiling.
I probably shouldn't have been told this, so I won't name names, but I've heard some hilarious Police Commissioner spoils from counters, from people venting about the police and their conduct to votes for Inspectors Morse, Frost, and Clouseau: it's a bit of an art-form, apparently, particularly for that particular post.
Since apparently some of my friends are unaware, these are the things that are bothering me and other UK trans people: theguardian.com/society/2024/aโฆ - the UK governmentโs latest transphobic shit. 1/3
#ukpol #transphobiarcgp.org.uk/representing-you/pโฆ - GPsโ representative body calling for end to shared care with the private sector, and restricting their role in other aspects of trans healthcare. 3/3
Like, there’s this person who I barely knew existed until I heard that they are now on a multi year deep dive obsession with me making a post saying that getting rid of TERFs was akin to getting rid of bedbugs.
I didn’t name this person; I had no fucking idea that they existed, until I started hearing on the grapevine that they are habitually walking around showing screenshots from this server and complaining that “Sarah said I am like bedbugs and pubic lice”. Bit self-important, but whatever.
Apparently recently they presented it as justification for their revolting behaviour towards trans women. “Sarah, who doesn’t know me, said mean things about a group of people which I took to include me, based on my own evaluation of my own behaviour, and I am now VERY OFFENDED”.
Ok, so here’s the thing:
I know you’re almost certainly reading this because you’re obsessed with m
Like, thereโs this person who I barely knew existed until I heard that they are now on a multi year deep dive obsession with me making a post saying that getting rid of TERFs was akin to getting rid of bedbugs.
I didnโt name this person; I had no fucking idea that they existed, until I started hearing on the grapevine that they are habitually walking around showing screenshots from this server and complaining that โSarah said I am like bedbugs and pubic liceโ. Bit self-important, but whatever.
Apparently recently they presented it as justification for their revolting behaviour towards trans women. โSarah, who doesnโt know me, said mean things about a group of people which I took to include me, based on my own evaluation of my own behaviour, and I am now VERY OFFENDEDโ.
Ok, so hereโs the thing:
I know youโre almost certainly reading this because youโre obsessed with me. I fled the country to avoid people like you, so yeah, I donโt like you much. I think youโre objectively terrible human beings. Youโre worse than my mother in law, and she steals tips off of restaurant tables.
And the fact that youโre still letting this live rent free in your head months and months, going into years later, and that people you think are your friends are laughing at you for it and then telling me about it, is clearly something thatโs bothering you.
So Iโm going to try and offer you a bit of insight, and maybe you might find it helpful. I dunno.
Anyway, were some random TERF to liken me to pubic lice or bedbugs, even if they specifically named me (and I sure as fuck didnโt do that; Iโm not stupid), I know exactly what Iโd feel:
NOTHING
Absolutely nothing. The fuck should I care what some random arsehole I donโt respect thinks about me? Itโs not like Iโm relying on their opinion for anything.
Maybe if I thought they had a point, I might be upset, and dwell on it tho.
as a young trans woman (under minimum age for medically prescribed HRT) living in the UK. Things have never been worse for me. I have tried self harming within the past few months because of my severe gender dysphoria yet I cannot do anything about it. I live in a single working class parent household without enough money for DIY. So I've pretty much given up on a medical transition until I can move to another country or get enough money for a good supply of DIY hrt.
i wanna talk to it but it is on DND mode for the last couple of days meaning that i'm not sure if i should reach to her or if to give it space (said friend uses it/she pronouns)
@Isabel Ruffell Which kind of makes the next election a no-op. If I thought any party likely to win significant support would moderate him Iโd pin meagre hope on that but I canโt see even our โalliesโ making trans rights a condition of doing business.
it's been hard. I've got friends who are definitely struggling right now. Things seem very uncertain is probably the nicest way to say "it's probably going to be more of the same after the election"
@Alisdair Calder McGregor aaaaasanyway, must dash. Got a subtropical sunset to watch over my citrus trees, safe in the knowledge that I have no pubic lice.
I remember around 2015ish, when you predicted that there'd be US-style toilet laws in the UK someday. I remember thinking that that was a bit far-fetched, but I've now changed my mind. Labour aren't going to be any kinder towards British trans folks, are they? ๐
Aged 10 (late C19), my grandmother's aunt went paddling and her feet were cut by a piece of tin. They became infected (I presume they developed gangrene). By the time she saw a doctor, the only solution was amputation. Both feet, on the kitchen table of the girl's house, without anaesthetic. Apparently, she could be heard screaming from outside the house.
It's besides the point, but they could've given her tourniquet anaesthesia as a non-pharmaceutical option.
My language learning web page (linguno.com) has gone all political today on this 50th anniversary of the Carnation Revolution in Portugal. This means I know how to say "I will abolish the death penalty".
I have got literally the happiest thing in the history of everything ever for you today! And that is no exaggeration whatsoever! In fact it is an understatement! Here is My Baby Goat! Get the mp3 fโฆ
Michael OโLeary is a real life shitposter who plays the press like a fiddle, and here he is doing it again.
We live in a time where anyone could do a quick check to see if a 737-8200 could reach Rwanda from the UK (ok, fuelling stops are possible but it seems unlikely that would be favoured), and confirm that, no, it cannot.
But โjournalistsโ donโt apparently bother to actually investigate โฆ anything.
Ryanair Holdings Plc Chief Executive Officer Michael OโLeary weighed into the UKโs controversial plan to deport refugees to Rwanda, saying he would โhappilyโ do the flights if he had the available aircraft.
Suppose you are the judge in the fictitious case of Djarin v Skywalker. The parties each seek a child arrangements "live with" order in respect of a child, G. How would you apply the welfare checklist in s1(3) of the Children Act 1989?
But itโs basically Silo, if Silo didnโt take itself seriously, and also thereโs no nuclear war in Silo, and everybody outside is dead in Silo (humans anyway, the rest of the ecosystem is fine as long as it stays away from Fulton County, Georgia).
And Silo is set in our future, not some 1950s retro future.
But other than that, same idea. I guess Silo was influenced by the game. Itโs very much โwhat if Fallout, but hard sci-fi?โ
@FoolishOwl Also, the reasoning for doing the bad thing was different: Fallout, capitalist excess; Silo, Thurman passionately believes that he needs to murder 7 billion people to save humanity.
They both probably draw from similar sources in many ways. Iโd be surprised if there arenโt some Twilight Zone episode or similar around.
And while sharing a lot, they also are by all means distinct. Does feel like a copy, just shared inspiration. Which is good.
That said, Fallout was the spiritual successor to Wasteland, which isnโt a vault thing but more generic post apocalyptic. I still have my C64 original ๐
"The hearing was entirely conducted remotely by Zoom" says this judgment*. I wonder in some future era this will make as much sense as discussion of stannary courts or writing things down on vellum.
"Zoom", hmm, let me see: "magnification, especially with the aid of optics". Well, it was at the time of the great illness, so probably they were sat in different buildings and using telephoto lenses.
โWokeโ is used as en epithet by those whose entire existence is trying to make reality conform to their simplistic prejudices, against those who live in the real, but more complex, world.
after lettuce-head said the other day that their constituency โhas no woke hostelriesโ, and there being no desire on their part to define โwokeโ, Iโve decided to take that task on myself. From now on, โwokeโ means โgreat beerโ.
Donโt quite know what to make of this. Either itโs Cass trying to gaslight us, or maybe sheโs realised that beyond the shores of Normal Island and the US, having her name on this bag of crap basically destroys her career? thekitetrust.org.uk/wp-contentโฆ
@christineburns I suspect sheโs just so lacking in empathy that she thought she was doing a good job. Her main focus seems to have been on NHS admin, completely failing to appreciate what it must be like for folk trapped in a hostile system with a clock ticking.
So first they feed the transphobes a bunch of crap they'll be running wild with for YEARS, then they're trying to feed everybody else the idea that they didn't mean it that way-- as if that's going to help. What a steaming pile of twisted crap.
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