I have often seen the question asked, “why are so many trans women so aggressive/combative”.
And the answer is that we don’t start out being, but we quickly learn that expecting people to be decent human beings towards us because it’s the right thing to do doesn’t work.
It only works if we make it harder to not treat us like human beings than vice versa.
I don’t feel like that’s on us to fix.
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Rando: "Trans women are basically the same as men"
Trans women: "The fuck? That's incredibly transmisogynist!"
Others: "Shush dears, don't worry your little brains. You just didn't understand what he meant."
Like, can you actually believe this shit?
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Thankfully I have a load of timber and metal to dispose of in the tip this afternoon, and the timber skip is nearly empty, which means I get to throw it hard and watch in satisfaction as it smashes shit up.
Because I kinda need that outlet right now.
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This implies that there are capybara races.
Why am I expecting there to be a manga about this out there?
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Appreciate I’m posting a lot about the latest drama, and the unexamined transmisogyny at the root of it, but I think we are at a bit of an inflection point now.
It appears that a lot of this singling out of trans women heavy instances has come from a few small servers that were heavily involved in the block list project, and mastodon.art, a large server that were it smaller, I suspect would be widely defederated.
As far as I can tell, most of the smaller servers are offline at this point, including Frontman-Mc-TechbRo’s own single user server.
No idea if this is temporary, or whether the tide has turned and enough people are now providing pushback to the “trans women are basically inclined towards naziism and that’s just how it is” bullshit they were spreading a few days ago.
I am hoping that we have turned a corner. Let’s see.
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@Charles ☭ H We have history, which is why you're not getting the magic fuckity bye button immediately.
But do FUCKING NOT mansplain transmisogyny to me.
One and only warning.
Mornin all! Another day, another scroll through the current spattering of transphobia and apologism for same to see who gets the magic button of fuckity-bye.
Quite a bit of it is people who should know better. Oh well. Onwards and upwards.
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The fediverse is utterly swimming in transphobia, particularly directed at trans women right now. People still defending a guy who outright says we are basically men and need treating as such as “not transphobic”, and getting pretty much no comeback for it.
And this is the least transphobic social media.
Is it any wonder so many of us are just balls of rage? What the hell is wrong with so many of you?
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So it appears that techbro blocklist dude has a history of posts which are “plausibly deniably” close to being outright blatant trabsphobia. Not in your face, just very very dog whistly.
What a totally unexpected development. #MilkShakeDuck
I see some of the trans mascs are now jumping on the “trans women are just being hysterical” bandwagon.
For those who haven’t experienced one of these clusterfucks before, this is entirely on brand for them. In my experience, lots of them are “men” before they’re “trans”, and not in a wholesome way.
I appreciate the realisation that nobody is helping us except us may be a difficult one to adjust to, but, ladies, chin up! Most of us are used to having to reevaluate who our friends are when we transitioned and this is just more of the same.
Onwards and upwards, and nil carborundum illegitimi!
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Getting my flu vaccine because last year I didn’t.
And then I got flu.
And it was a right bastard.
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Time for a shitpost. Let’s play a round of Only Connect!
What’s the connection?
Chicago Pizza
SpaceX Starship
King Cobra
Holy Roman Empire
Identify your food based on the location of structural starch. Is a hot dog a sandwich? No, it's clearly a taco.cuberule.com
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I can’t do polls on Friendica, so just pretend, ok?
1. Get rid of all trans women
2. …
3. Profit
Whose plan is this?
1️⃣ Graham Linehan
2️⃣ Donald Trump
3️⃣ Rishi Sunak
4️⃣ The Mastodon HOA
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@Mendie :progresspride_flag: :flag_demisexual: :flag_demigirl: you didn’t know?
Wow!
He set his entire life on fire for transphobia. It’s a thing.
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Oh, I googled after I confirmed that Lineham was who I thought he was [by name] and then added LGBTQ.
So I mean, I know, now.
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So, if you set out to drop a bomb into the Fediverse trans community, then you couldn’t hope to have the result more disruptive than the currently developing schism.
This is why we can’t have nice things. What a clusterfuck.
The more I see about this "Bad Space" thing, the more concerned I get. This is like that abortive united federation of instances thingy from last year that was run by the freeze peach crowd, only this one cloaks an apparent trans eliminationist agenda in the language of social justice. Apparently a lot of people find this superficially attractive.
If you are a trans-heavy instance, you might want to consider a fediblock of ubiqueros.com (AFAICS this is the "Bad Space" main instance) as necessary self defence. I am certainly going to.
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Wait, are you talking about The Bad Space project by Ro?
I thought that was basically a directory of fedi instances with crummy mod policies. I think I remember the "united federation" drama from last year too. The Bad Space seems more like a blacklist than a badly-contrived rules manifesto.
I've started seeing some posts floating around regarding some "Good Space" thing, but all I've heard so far is the name. If it stands in opposition to The Bad Space I can see how it would be problematic though.
I think I'm confused…
@Acorn Squashbuckler it appears to be a directory of the sort of instances everyone would want to block, AND instances run by or hosting trans women.
Fair warning, I have seen this shit before and an in a mood to deal with it by creating a fire break. My block finger is very itchy right now.
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@AcornSquashbuckler Some context for what's going on with The Bad Space and FSEP: hachyderm.io/@mekkaokereke/111…
OK, let's get into it. Let's talk about anti-Blackness on this here Fediverse, "civility traps", and "why nazis wear suits."First: there are some trans folk that love Black people, care about our safety, and want to see the Fediverse be more welcoming to Black users.♥️ These kind folk volunteer considerable time, money, effort, and social capital, to make the Fediverse more welcoming for Black folk. We love them for this.
But there are some trans folk that are super fashy, and hate Black folk.
@Ben Hutchings @Acorn Squashbuckler Relevant to this, have also seen posts complaining that trans women (particularly) only ever seem to be welcome in spaces as long as we present as resources to be used, and that the idea that we have a right to just fucking exist somewhere seems utterly alien.
And there’s a lot of that sort of tone in the post you just quoted, along with the “you’re either helping us build our widget or you’re with the Nazis” false dichotomy.
This is a thing we have seen time and time again. When I was in politics, we were only ever engaged with when people wanted us to lend legitimacy to whatever they were doing. It pretty much NEVER got reciprocated.
We are used to being thusly shat on, but it doesn’t mean we have to be fucking nice about it.
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@Matthew Vernon They “fixed” it. Previously a single malicious report would get your trans instance banned,
Now it needs two.
I expect it won’t take long.
Tl;dr: lots of small trans run instances and single user instances of mostly queer trans feminine people.
It’s important to maintain an open mind but not so open that your brains fall out. the “Bad Space” (might as well call it the “Torment Plexus”) is a tool for blocking trans women.
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With the surging popularity of federating tools, how do we make it easier to make safety the default?nivenly.org
Oh dear god, now Bad Space bod is calling algorithmic purges of trans people which said tool literally went and did, “hypothetical harms”.
And someone I followed had so little shame that they thought reposting that inability to stop fucking digging was a good idea.
Been vaguely aware of the latest Fedi drama. Been trying to ignore it, but it seems to have ended up at “trans people need to stop being so sensitive to people randomly assuming they’re disgusting perverts who the rest of society needs shielding from, it was a MISTAKE you guys”.
And that just makes me sad.
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Respectability politics, innit.
I'd rather have solidarity with my fellow deviants (read: sex workers, drug addicts, unhoused people). We all deserve liberation, safety and respect.
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Hopefully I’ve shared this right. Anyway, I did this at the weekend. It broke me. 34 kilometres. 30° C, 800 metres of ascent.
So I have stupidly decided to do it again next year.
While I can still barely stand up because of the DOMS.
I must be loopy.
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This is a bit concerning.
Basically, every few hundred years the earth is hit by a solar flare powerful enough to pretty much destroy all modern tech, and probably give anyone flying in a plane at the time cancer.
These are much bigger than the Carrington Event, which was the last really big solar flare recorded.
One day, without warning, the sun will just wipe out tech slate clean.
And there is apparently nothing we can do about it.
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Did the Dale Mountain Rescue 9 edges challenge yesterday.
Uploaded my results to Strava.
Apparently the climb from the A57 to High Neb has me on the leaderboard as the 4th fastest middle aged woman.
I imagine this will annoy a "certain group".
In 30 degree heat too!
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Also I ws eating a sandwich while doing it.
Tl;dr: I am fucking quick up hills.
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@Alisdair Calder McGregor Cambridge destroyed my hill fitness.
But Lagos; Lagos is hilly, and hot.
Going up hills in heat I can do.
Usually I block internet transphobes.
But sometimes, like today, they irritate me sufficiently that I go and donate to a trans charity in their name, and then show them the receipt.
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A thing I was recently wondering. For most of the world's population, what is the largest island they can get to, other than the one they are currently on, using only fixed links (ie bridges, tunnels etc. No boats or aircraft).
And I think the answer is very straightforwardly, "Great Britain".
But if you start on Great Britain, then what is it? (I am not counting the land mass of Asia/Africa/Europe as an "island")
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Please enjoy this excellent footage of a nazi being good and properly punched:
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Watched a video about that fateful Air France Concorde flight. It took 121 seconds from the point they lit the afterburners to start rolling to the point everyone died. For most of that it was probably profoundly obvious to the flight crew that they were going to die: the plane had two engines out, their wing was on fire, they were on the verge of a stall, their landing gear was fucked, they could not gain speed or height, and the aircraft was becoming uncontrollable.
They HAD to know they were going to die, and yet right to the point their short flight ended impacting a hotel at 200 knots, inverted, with the plane yelling, “pull up, pull up, pull up”, they acted utterly professionally.
So impressive. So tragic.
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@alastair Apollo 12 was also struck by lightning, which wiped out the guidance and the telemetry. A single flight controller was able to figure out what had happened, and instructed the crew to flip a single switch that saved the mission.
If they hadn’t have fixed it, they would’ve had to abort.
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Oh arse, I'm going viral again.
Oh well. Didn't want to use this for the next day anyway,.
I am in the showers at the marina (yes, TERFs, the women’s showers. Go fuck yourselves). They have the radio on. They are talking to a “psychotherapist” who explains how, because of the iron in your blood, you can get rid of “negative energy” by touching a radiator to “ground yourself” for 20 minutes a day.
Did the Enlightenment actually happen, or did I imagine it?
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It scares me that I’m above average intelligence and how easily I can say that. Because I’m not very smart per se, I’ve met actually smart people and boy am I a drooling idiot in comparison.
The things you can convince people of really scares me, because it’s almost always extremely stupid stuff. Some might seem harmless (in this case the idiot looses 20 mins a day), but a lot of it is very dangerous:(
Dear Vodafone. That you managed to make registration for your site not work with the built in password manager for iPhones, one of the most popular mobile phones, is deeply unfortunate. It’s also an impressive achievement, because iCloud Keychain works nearly everywhere. You actually have to go out of your way to bugger it up.
But you, a mobile phone company, have managed to make your mobile site not work with this most common of mobile phones. I am impressed with the amount of effort it must have taken to be this incompetent.
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Techbros: self driving cars are inevitable!
Also techbros: prove you are human by performing a task that computers can’t do, like identifying traffic lights.
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Conservative lawmaker Chuck Grassley likes the look of Rachel Reeves’ tax proposals.Jones Hayden (POLITICO)
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You can tell your covid requirements are pseudoscience tickybox woo when they emphasise “hand gel”, which is completely fucking useless against covid, over “face masks”, which are not.
And also when your activity is outdoors in the countryside.
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@Adam With the caveat that a lot of the orthodoxy around those viruses also originates from the same utterly wrong assumptions that made the WHO state that covid couldn’t possibly be airborne until they evidence that it was became overwhelming.
I’m not saying personal hygiene with regard to hand cleanliness isn’t important: it is. It’s much more an issue for gastrointestinal stuff though, and is unhelpful to focus on with diseases (including the ones you mention), that the vast majority of people catch through inhalation.
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Unknown parent • • •Oh I am the master at that. I end up expressing myself poorly and people get insanely mad:( It’s easy to get misunderstood. Bonus if I screwed up my English:(
There’s a fine line between asshole and awkward sometimes.
Gen X-Wing
Unknown parent • • •That’s certainly part of it. But the world is filled with celebrities, leaders, and politicians that peddle the most awful things. That pisses me off. That it’s even seen as a “viewpoint” is bad enough. Facism isn’t an ok nor valid position.
(I’m a bit angry too. Also I do think you bring up a point, and there’s been some bad faith players here:( )
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in reply to Gen X-Wing • • •novatorine 🏴🏳️⚧️
Unknown parent • • •FediThing has moved!
Unknown parent • • •Even the calmest, most passive responses are characterised as aggressive by reactionaries. Simply asking for change is itself seen as aggression by them, even when it clearly isn't.
Kneeling down because you disagree with racism is suddenly painted as provocative.
Scattering confetti at Wimbledon to draw attention to the climate crisis is condemned by government ministers.
Naomi
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •Alternative hypothesis:
"Why are all these people who are hurting and sore from the wounds their life has given them so sensitive and quick to bark out in pain when poked in old wounds...?"
Because I see a lot of the same "aggression" from chronic pain people and minority groups and I think it comes from ....
Oh gods I'm just restating what you said. Sorry.