I went with NHS but am now on complaint#2. First assessment was with a yr 1 specialist GP in training, no supervisor, claimed I had the inattentive bits but no hyperactive so said it wasn't ADHD. Complained, got "second opinion" with consultant who said he thought I had ASD and refused to even discuss ADHD without school reports.
... Yup. I'm pretty sure a care plan shouldn't be "Akkikins will come back with school reports. I refuse to see her until she produces school reports. I've referred her for ASD assessment" ASD questionnaires came back very unlikely to point not put on waiting list (AQ50 6/50, cambs behavioural empathy score of 69/80) so... Guess I was right? But refusal to assess me properly. Yay.
@IsabelB best of luck and know that you are in good company, as an awful lot of us over here in The Good Place have a wide variety of neurodivergencies ๐ซ
Problem with streaming series is they donโt have enough material to fill the seasons theyโre given so instead of filler episodes weโre moving to entire filler seasons.
Itโs just boring. Itโs all boring.
And with years between seasons, nobody can remember what is actually supposed to be happening.
Letโs get back to TV where they get the fuck on with it.
@m0rpk Then we have the opposite end of the spectrum, with the last Matrix film looking like it had been developed and pitched as a series but ended up as a single film.
god I'm so confused with it. No idea what's happening. It's very pretty; the costumes are nice and the twinks are cute. This sums up the reasons I'm still watching.
@anandamide Itโs very simple. There are some acolytes and Iโve forgotten most of their names but they did some stuff and now they must go to this other city except, no, wait, theyโre going to a slightly different city. Just meeting up with the baddie from the last season because we do coffee now. Itโs a thing. Ooh, look at the one in red walking in an evil way! PSYCH! Weโre actually going to a different city! Oh no, they stole the McGuffins of power!
I was always confused by the choice, given that platforms 9 and 10 were out in the shed to the side with two tracks between them (although it looks like they've renumbered 11 as 10 and there are only two tracks there now). First time I saw the 9 3/4 exhibit it didn't have a queue of people. I was mildly amused by it, even if it was in completely the wrong place.
@David Hough They lost one of the platforms in the suburban station, yes. It went as part of the Thameslink Programme because the paths into suburban are the same ones needed to access the tunnel into the Thameslink core.
@David Hough Railingโs stupid invention would have sort of worked had they re-numbered after opening platform 0 because then 9 and 10 (present 8 and 9) would have had what is now the floor under the Parcel Yard pub between them.
@David Hough The lesson in all this is that if youโre gonna be a massive transphobe, you need to make damn sure the shit about trains in your books is watertight because WE WILL KNOW.
Bordeaux is a wine that definitely needs aging. If you'd told me that you were drinking 5 year old Bordeaux in the bath I would have worried about you.
In my wine classes, I was taught that for drinking in the bath (usually a shared bath) a red sparkling wine is a good choice (my preference is a quality Lambrusco).
The more I come to terms with the pervasiveness of the ADHD Iโve been in denial about for so long, the more it utterly blows my mind how *alien* the way neurotypicals see the world is.
Honestly, itโs just pervasive. Attitudes to snacking. The idea that unloading the dishwasher doesnโt have to be soul destroying. That listening to someone talking slowly doesnโt have to be enraging. That holding on to transient thoughts is possible. That you can stop the music. That you can just DO something even if itโs not urgent or interesting. That emotions arenโt zero or a million decibels. That hyperfocus isnโt a thing for them. That itโs not a constant fight against self loathing for not doing the thing. That they can just switch off. That telling someone that something thatโs bothering them isnโt that important is actually supposed to help rather than annoy. That you donโt have to constantly seek approval that youโll never get. That burnout doesnโt have to be a sword of Damocles.
A less charitable definition is "a dev on a team with Big Ideas, that does not want to reach an agreement with their co-workers, but instead asserts their will unilaterally".
Why does all the personal funding require current enrollment in school? Why are all the internships only for students? Why do those certain jobs only hire recent graduates?
Age discrimination for exploitative employment of children under thirty
Saw a report that Sarah McBride had called for a Democratic Party that had a broad range of views on trans rights.
Pickme pickme pickme pickme pickme
Too many Democrats and I'm looking at you Schumer, are surrendering without even a token political fight.
In the UK, we have a nominally left-wing Party that's pro-Brexit, anti-immigration, authoritarian, anti-protest, transphobic, market-worshipping, austerity for the poor and tax breaks for the rich, ableist, genocide-supporting and economically incompetent. They won because the electorate decided they were the surest way of punishing the Blue Tories and that's all. Next time around, the far right be they Conservative or Reform will win as a consequence. The moral is you don't ultimately win by becoming the enemy.
Democrats, if you don't fight everything tooth and nail now in the political arena, you're going to end up with a weapon in your hands fighting off the New Gestapo when they come for you. It might be too late already.
The Far Right must not win at the next uk GE. We must all come together to ensure that does not happen. A coalition of Green Party and the new Left party coming out of the Collective is the way forward.
100% bet that original poster had childhood emotional neglect and/or serious self esteem issues so has no idea whats coming or going (at least from my personal experience of all that)
Why don't tech companies hire people on part-time contracts? Given the proportion of programmers who are neurospicy (I have no stats, just we seem to be drawn to it) you'd have thought it would be a good way to attract folk.
Now I'm apparently at least temporarily semi-retired, I struggle to get up and moving on a morning. If I had, say, a four hour remote shift from 8 til 12, that wouldn't even cut into my day. And I could earn some money and they could get my coding output and everybody would be happy.
But no, it's all back to office and high pressure environment and move fast break shit and work all day every day until you find out the pension you saved for us disappearing up Trump's arse because he's no better at running an economy than he was at businesses.
Seriously though, why? I honestly think two 4 hours a day programmers would be more productive than a single 8.
There are any number of jobs that don't really fit 9-5 40 Ur work week in terms of what you usefully do Vs mandated time in the office. And the return to office push is part office property portfolio managers and part "controlling the lives of employees gives management a sense of accomplishment" - if you're not running an assembly line or in construction or dealing with people in person, there's no reason not to. I'd work 12-8 if I could as a natural night owl.
I'm a night owl too, but if I need to get up in the morning I can, easily. If I don't, it's nearly impossible. Getting up for an 8 start and getting it out the way would suit me.
It's fascinating that COVID showed office environments are about little more than control, yet collectively we don't have the power to stop them enforcing it.
My last boss told me, just before I left, they were going to trial hybrid working one day a week but that in his experience the most productive work happens around the water-cooler.
I managed to hold back from telling him he hadn't actually done any work for decades then. I did tell him one day a week would make recruitment difficult as their competitors were a decade ahead of them.
Two 8 hours a day programmers are usually less productive than a single 8.
Software development scales really badly by adding people; it is a truism of software project management that trying to deliver a software project faster by adding more people is like trying to put out a fire by adding more petrol.
The more developers you have, the more meetings and management you need to keep them all working together and not building wildly incompatible solutions to the same problem.
I've never known anyone able to work at full burn coding for eight hours a day. Just sayin'.
I don't.think human brains can sustain it effectively. 4 hours? Maybe.
I agree about the more people thing in practice but that's often down to mistakes at the design level imho. That said I've only ever worked in or led small teams.
@bencurthoys a friend described it as cavitation. Trying to speed up a software project beyond its limit y adding man hours simply causes turbulence. Like there is a maximum speed a propellor can make a ship go, spinning it faster just creates air pockets and turbulence.
From experience I would say that a 4h/day coder working on a โwell documented and definedโ project , is more efficient than having an IT person in the office for 8 hr/day.
Iโve hired and managed a number of developers over the years. Web services and mobile apps can make part time/fixed hours challenging, as the people developing the code are also usually the ones supporting it. For small teams in particular, you lean heavily on the person that wrote the code. So, if a high priority issue occurs, you may need that person to jump online, regardless if they are on shift.
Severance: I want to love it, but I can't help thinking they're doing the Lost and BSG(2004) thing of "jerk the viewer around because we didn't actually think beyond the elevator pitch" thing.
I guess I'm the opposite, I've mostly just enjoyed the vibes, cinematography, acting etc., and the more the mystery plot is revealed, the more it threatens to become Just Another Show for me.
I got the jerk-around impression right from the pilot episode of Lost (and even GoT), whereas here I've always been happy to just float in the mood, to the extent that I've been incurious about the bigger picture.
similar on my trip today if I didn't know the number already, I'm not sure I would be able to pick it out - also on trains today, and the accent of the announcer on Northern means "see" and "say" sound exactly the same and it's oddly jarring.
Probably, but I don't think that's certain. Depends on how effective the rest of the European political actors are in isolating the scum and rewarding cooperation from those willing to engage in it.
Argh slow speech. My mind wanders between each word.
In discussion with friend who prefers instructional videos: yes sometimes you need to watch what to do, but most of the time gimme the text. It should be an alternative for many (most?) things.
@ajlanes there'll be a time when Youtube Longs can be made to loop like YouTube Shorts, and people will be vying to make videos where it's hard to tell that it's even happened.
@StrangeNoises @ajlanes How about having a coherent list of error codes and what does they mean instead of heaps of barely useful videos, infuriating ms support pages and quora paywalled articles or a frigging AI?
you have managed to perfectly convey this feeling in this post. kudos.
If it helps: If the video has a transcript (next to the description) you can search that with ctrl f. But it is still a video, the least dense form of this kind of information.
The high-speed rail link between Porto and Vigo, in Spain, will be completed in 2032, giving the North of Portugal and Galicia โa unique geostrategic positionโ, according to the Minister of Infrastructure.
Concretely, what โmale socialisationโ is, is the continuous reinforcement to boys that being woman like or feminine in any way is bad, and will result in violence done against them.
so the folks who accuse trans women of having male socialisation, as some kind of cudgel to claim we are really menโฆ
seem to be missing the single most obvious and directly visible fact about trans women
Trans women are women. And we start off as girls who the world believes falsely to be boys.
So the way we experience โmale socialisationโ is not the way that boys experience it. We experience it as it being continously reinforced to us that what we are is *bad*, and if we ever dare to tell the world who we really are, violence will be done to us.
So a consequence of that threat of violence to the little girls, that if they ever dare say who they are, violence will be done to themโฆ
is that the only ones of us who come out early are those who are confident and brave enough to face down that threat
or for whom the pain of living as anything other than themselves is too great for the threat to matter
And if that is not the case, we get pushed into a closet, and that takes a serious toll on our bodies and mental health. The closet is toxic. The closet is killing us.
When I hear that trans women have this reputation of being bold, and connected to the world, and full of self knowledge
i wonder, what if the timid ones were also allowed to live?
What it is people are really saying when they see a bold and confident trans woman
and say
โMale Socialisationโ
I wonder what would happen if they could understand they are saying we should have been one of the dead ones. One of the ones that stayed in the closet.
What if they understood that they are trying to define womanhood by how willing you are to accept that women should be quiet, broken, and obedient.
What it is people are really saying when they see a bold and confident trans woman
and say
โMale Socialisationโ
Just like when a woman acts like a "confident, assertive" man, she gets labelled a "ballbusting bitch."
And just as women who make it up the ranks in the corporate world are made to reshape their behaviour to match that of the men around them... this is the anvil on which we're shaped.
This is so true! Until I was 10 I thought it was perfectly normal for me to always want to play girl roles when playing house or dress up. Then one day one of my older sisters walked in on me and my friends while I was wearing a cheerleader uniform and I was about to give a kiss to the boy playing the football player. Her shocked and very clearly hateful response was what taught me that I had to hide away from others and not let them see the real me.
Adding to this, my own experience of "male socialization" was that from 2nd grade through 8th grade, the boys mostly hated me and would beat me up on a regular basis. I once asked one why he did it. He seriously thought about it for a moment, then told me he didn't know. He just knew I was different and he had to beat me up. He then proceeded to beat me up
"Boy socialiization" taught me that boys are capricious and violent and should be avoided at all costs for my own safety.
Those of us who are not quite women or men but who the world assumed were men... And just felt kind of confused when the world taught us that not being all brawny and muscular was bad and that acting soft and emotional was bad... That or later it taught us it's okay to be a guy who has a softer side but that didn't really describe us either...
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Well now I'm going to have to reconsider the old advice for what to do if life gives me lemons. Though to be honest, I'd always suspected that I'd make limoncello anyway.
In the US, the people with the guns (or at least the ones who claim they need guns to fight off a tyrannical state) are supporters of the current regime, so they donโt think there is anything to stand up to.
although it's the nutters with the guns that wanted the coup, didn't they?
It was nice to see the demonstrations in Korea - it looked more like a festival than a protest. Much better than in the 90s with tear gas being thrown around etc.
@IncHulk National leaders who think America is still somebody we can deal with, 'Centrists', the sort invested in a status quo that no longer exists....
I feel like โGen X Cambridge compsci grads getting stack overflow within 30 seconds of being exposed to Python for the first timeโ is a whole vibe.
Hey did you know that Iberian rail gauge is what it is because Portugal used 5 Portuguese feet for their gauge and Spain 6 Castilian feet for their gauge and the are so damn close that splitting the difference wouldnโt have a detrimental affect on rolling stock for either. And so its officially 1668mm!
All these neoliberal politicians know what their oligarch masters want, and it's been agreed informally, behind the scenes, that Farage will take the reigns in the UK after this shambles of a Labour government
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If you're able to, can I be a bother and ask some questions? Did you do right to choose and if so who did you go with?
I'm looking for recommendations since I had such a horrible time on the NHS, requested ICB funding for assessment outside local MH services.
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I went with NHS but am now on complaint#2. First assessment was with a yr 1 specialist GP in training, no supervisor, claimed I had the inattentive bits but no hyperactive so said it wasn't ADHD. Complained, got "second opinion" with consultant who said he thought I had ASD and refused to even discuss ADHD without school reports.
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in reply to Sarah Brown • • •... Yup. I'm pretty sure a care plan shouldn't be "Akkikins will come back with school reports.
I refuse to see her until she produces school reports.
I've referred her for ASD assessment"
ASD questionnaires came back very unlikely to point not put on waiting list (AQ50 6/50, cambs behavioural empathy score of 69/80) so... Guess I was right? But refusal to assess me properly. Yay.
Anyway, also considering private.
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